Im seeing a married man. Im 22 he's 38. We met at work and used to give each other banter etc. Now that feelings have developed between us (alot of feelings I might add) when I see him my heart races and I feel happy but the times I don't see him I feel like I couldn't care less. I care about him a lot and he's told me he doesn't care what other people think and he's anticipating the bombshell. But its driving me crazy...

What's driving you crazy? Your question really isn't clear.

The fact that when I'm with him I'm happy etc and when I'm not I'm a completely different person.

Probably because you realize that dating a married man is not right. When you're not with him you have time to think and know that what you're both doing is wrong.

That's messed up! He's married you should have never went there with him. But I agree with alty. You should stop seeing this man (better said then done, I know) but think about it if anything progress with you two its eventually its going to go bad because what goes around comes around if he can cheat on his WIFE he can cheat on you...

Ok I've stopped seeing the married man. Told it to him straight. Now its hurts him to text me and he's said il forget about him in two weeks...

It hurts him to text you? He shouldn't be texting you. You shouldn't be texting him.

You should have made a clean break from him. No Contact at all!

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Originally Posted by cuteblnde22

Ok iv stopped seeing the married man. Told it to him straight. Now its hurts him to text me and hes said il forget about him in two weeks....

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Now stop texting him.

Im not texting him. I know I made a mistake but I don't need to be judged

Who is judging you?

Sorry I'm not thinking straight. Hes still trying to get a response from me. Well I won't be the one feeling awkward at work tomorrow

Block his number.

I will do that thank you

Please do that. I didn't judge you, but that was hard for me as my marriage was broken due to a woman like you. He saw a single woman just like you. Now my 2 adult sons have very serious trust issues.

I would also like to add that dating in the workplace is a disaster waiting to happen whether the man is married or not.

A woman like me?

Yes, dating a married man when she/you knew he was married.

Sounds like a taint of judgement there.

Nope, just the facts ma'am.

Not judging you... I mean we all make mistakes.. No one is perfect.

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Originally Posted by cuteblnde22

Sounds like a taint of judgement there.

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Taint of judgement? Marriage is marriage. It's a legal contract between two people that supposedly love each other enough to not only live together, but remain faithful to each other, and share everything they have, including a home, chldren, a life. Did you care about that at all?

For someone to come between that union, well, it's something that should be judged, and I for one did judge you. You know this man is married, yet you decided to have a relationship with him, you didn't give a damn about his wife or the family they have together. The only person you thought about was you, and what you want.

I don't feel bad for you, or for him. I only feel bad for the woman he married. Hopefully one day someone will do to you what you did to this woman. Maybe then you'll understand why you did something wrong.

Until then, suffer, you deserve it. Yes, that's judgement. I think you should know that what you did is not acceptable. You did something wrong, and you should suffer the consequences. I only wish he'd suffer them as well.