Girlfriend is extremely jealous, insecure and rocks mad trust issues
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Ok so here's the thing: I've never had a girlfriend. I'm 22 years old and I've always played the field and this one just happened to slow my roll which I'm totally okay with. We've only been dating for 4 months and it's pretty good but in reality I have nothing to compare it to so excuse me if this is mundane or relationship routine.
So one day we're having dinner and my girlfriend is completely silent and makes no effort to help me carry the conversation. When we get back to my place I ask her if there is anything on her mind and then she says, "You know, it's really hard to watch you hit and flirt with every girl."
Me: "What do you mean? When did I do that?"
Her: "At the restaurant with the waitress." (mind you my girlfriend is 4'11, curvacious and beautiful in every way.. the waitress was not even in the same division) "You're also so hard to talk to. Like, I can't even express myself to you."
Me: "I wasn't hitting on her, I was being social. She was taking our order, did you want me to point at the menu in silence? Also how am I hard to talk to?"
Her: "I don't know. But it's hard to watch you with other girls."
Things like this have been more frequent as of late. She would bring up a problem and offer no explanation. It would often be followed with, "I don't know" or complete silence and her getting up and leaving my place. No matter how I try to angle it, she won't give me a reason or help me come up with a solution. I'm getting sick of it and everything she says is beginning to annoy me. I like her but I don't like this side of her.
Tips? I apologize if these problems seem amateur, like I said I never had to deal with this.
In a relationship, moving away and not knowing when I'm coming back
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I've been with my girlfriend for 5 months and we've come to be very fond of each other. Things are pretty dope, we are honest and jive well together. Just recently, my father and sister approached me concerned with my grandmother's health. Since we live in different provinces, I have decided that come end of March I will be moving back to my hometown to be with my family and spend the remainder of whatever time my grandma has left with her.
I don't know how much time she has left and I quite frankly, I cannot put a time cap on time spent with my family. My girlfriend understands and lately we've been discussing what options we have in terms of maintaining a relationship. Since there is no end date, I told her it was unfair for me to ask her to keep going on with me. She's still undecided.
Here's the twist: because I don't know how much time is left, I still have a mortgage to pay and an education to pursue and I still need to continue with my life after the move. I plan on applying for career jobs with transferability to pay my bills and what not, but the future is unpredictable.
I have plans of flying back once a month to see her, but I don't think our relationship can sufficiently grow without much physical presence. Sometimes the answer is obvious, but I don't want to let us go. It pains me to think about it but the timing is garbage. This girl is amazing.
Give me the truth real good.
Girlfriend is unmotivated and feels sorry for herself.
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I have been with my girlfriend for almost 6 months now and at about 3 months in I've began noticing a trend in her attitude toward adversity and life in general. I'm a very career oriented guy and I have always done what I could to help her along but she always finds a way to accept her circumstance and not do anything about it.
For example: she wants to work in early child hood development. It so happens that has a friend who is a manager at an early education facility. I made the call and set her up with a job, NOT an interview, a job. It was a matter of her calling my friend and asking when to start. 3 weeks has gone by and she has not made the call and when I asked about it, she had nothing but excuses. I'm upset that I'm sticking my neck out there for her and she is taking it for granted.
When I try to talk to her about it she always blames her upbringing and tells me to stop lecturing her. I'm getting fed up and I'm a true believer in surrounding yourself with people who improve your state of mind and drive. I'm just sick of always being a shoulder she cries on and does nothing to attempt to improve her situations. How can I make us work? I'm about leave her.
Sorry for the bad grammar, on my phone at the Airport on my way to see her for NYE. Wish me luck.