I've been married over 20 years and my husband has never been interested in sex. I've told him if he doesn't pay attention to me I'll find someone who will. Now I have and I'm head over heels in love with this man. He's also married and his wife hasn't had sex with him in 2 years. I've known him for about 15 years, he delivers to my place of business.

His wife is sick with anorexia and a bad heart and they have a 14 year old son so he says he's trapped and can't leave. I'm ready to divorce and move 80 miles away to be near him but I am afraid of being alone. I too have children a grown daughter and preteen daughter.

I know my marriage is over what I've done by having an affair has ended it in my mind. I know I married because it was safe and he was a good man I never was in love with him. We have had a good life but not a good sex life. I'm 50 years old and I want more.

Even if I don't end up with this man I want more and being married won't allow this to happen should I end it now?

This is the sort of situation that prompts me to ask what you think. There's nothing seriously wrong that requires drastic measures. So what would you say to your husband? Would you tell him that you will be leaving, but you won't just pack a suitcase and walk out the door, especially because of your child? That you want a friendly divorce, with plans that involve specific dates for dividing the home, possessions, assets, custody, where to go, when to make it final? Or do you feel the need to make a fast exit, and what will you do about your child?
Deciding to leave is intertwined with the logistics.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

This is the sort of situation that prompts me to ask what you think. There's nothing seriously wrong that requires drastic measures. So what would you say to your husband? Would you tell him that you will be leaving, but you won't just pack a suitcase and walk out the door, especially because of your child? That you want a friendly divorce, with plans that involve specific dates for dividing the home, possessions, assets, custody, where to go, when to make it final? Or do you feel the need to make a fast exit, and what will you do about your child?
Deciding to leave is intertwined with the logistics.

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I plan on making plans in Dec. about a job in this other city and yes I would like a friendly divorce if there is such a thing. I will let my child stay in school here and not move her to the new city its only three counties away. I will get her every weekend and vacations. Its not her fault I want a divorce so I won't disrupt her life any more than need be. After school is out I will see then if she needs to stay with me. I have talked to someone about a job and it pays a lot more than I make now. I have even searched for housing in this city on line. I have been looking at different places so yes I will try to be prepared