I am a 26 year old female. I gave my life to Christ at the age of sixteen years old. I love the Lord with all my heart. I stayed single for 7 years until I met the guy I'm with now. I prayed and asked God to be married because I didn't want to be involve in sexual sin. But I started dating I started dating this guy he wasn't a christian"my stupitidy" after 10 months of dating we had sex. I felt horrible because I really wanted to be.married to give my virginity away. Now were still together but I want to leave he is trying to get into church but.I know I have let God down. I wished I never let it go this.far. Why did I.have to meet him?

Look, you sinned. You shouldn't have done it. Here is the thing.. people think they let God down or they disappoint him and it simply is not true. It is a lie. How can you let someone down who knows everything about you? Everything you have done, everything you will do? What is done is done. You have to forgive yourself and move on.

Romans 8:1 Therefore, there is NOW no condemenation to those who are in Christ Jesus.

If the Lord doesn't condemn you then don't let satan. The best way to stay in your problem is to dwell on it, feel guilty about it. Soon you just say to yourself you will never change and you are right back in a sin cycle. BUT the Lord Jesus paid for your sins in FULL. In fact it was an OVER payment. Let it go. AS far as the east is from the west is how far your sin has been removed.

Paul said to forget those things which are behind and press on.

If this man is interested in church, encourage him to go. You never know, he could get saved. In the meantime don't put yourself in a position to let the sexual relationship continue. If he cares for you, he will wait and honor your beliefs. Saved or unsaved if a man loves you, he will wait on you. But Please don't live in the mentality that you let God down. You are forgiven, you are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. It isn't about what you did it is about what HE did. You are not righteous by your good works you are righteous because of HIS. Believe that, dwell on that and see your situation change.

God allows us to go through certain situations because He has given us freewill. YOU choose to have sex... and there are consequences for it. But that doesn't mean you won't be forgiven... and it certainly doesn't mean you are unloved. There isn't a person born who hasn't let God down... simply because we can't meet with His holiness! This doesn't justify our sin, but it is still taken care of. It simply shows the importance of Jesus Christ.

ClassyT gave you a great response.

@classy t thanks so much for your response!

I told him that I don't feel right continuing on and I won't continue on in it. I told him if he wanted to leave I would understand... although I would be extremely hurt. He told me he wanted to wait with me and he won't leave because we couldn't have sex until marriage. He going to bible study and trying to know more about God which is so good to know. I never thought in a million years I would fornicate. This has taught me to be more merciful to people caught up in a situation like this. So thanks again!!

@ hauntinghelper you are right. I don't want to try and cover it that's why I'm seeking advice on what to do. Sin does indeed have consequences I really wished I waited on God! But I will still try cause I feel so empty inside!

My only concern on you is that you are now trying to leave him when he is trying to come to church.
From that line I could suspect that you trying to sever the relationship for another oncoming while he unaware of your intentions are making a sacrificial move to save the relationship by giving himself to God.In this case I ask you to check your relationship with God properly again mainly yourself.

If I were you I would never leave him and do all I could to steer our paths towards getting married for this is the man that I gave myself to outside marriage.I believed that if he submitted himself to God and marry you through his repentance and full submission will allow God to wash the sins away... for He is a willing God.At the same time by making a Marriage Vow to the same changed man makes you as a Holy Temple of God allow the same hands,the same body,the same man recieveth you now cleansed and may cover your past for good.

On the contrary to marry somebody else other then your man now,even a Christian or whatever your sin remains to bother you for as long as you live if you're not strong enough.

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