Ask Me Help Desk - My Crush Lost His Mom

As the title says, my crush's mom died last week. We're friends, and he always comforts and encourages me when I feel down, and I've tried to do the same for him. But now I'm at a total loss for words. And he didn't even tell me! I found out from a mutual friend! Maybe he's not ready to talk to me about it. But I really care about him. I cried for him when I found out about what he's going tnrough. If there was anything I could do now... I would just hug him, empathize and tell him I love him. But none of that will help him feel any better. How am I supposed to comfort him if I've never gone through this? What do I tell him?

Go up to him and just say you heard what happened and give him a big hug. Do what he does to encourage you. Try to make him smile. Tell him that you don't like seeing him this way and that everything is going to be all right. Just be there for him... even when you think he doesn't need you, always be their for him and he will apperciate it. Trust me.
Sorry about the loss.
Good luck :)

Quote:

Originally Posted by ;

Go up to him and just say you heard what happened and give him a big hug. Do what he does to encourage you. try to make him smile. Tell him that you don't like seeing him this way and that everything is going to be alright. Just be there for him...even when you think he doesn't need you, always be their for him and he will apperciate it. Trust me.
Sorry about the loss.
Good luck

This is very bad advice on a bereavement board, bad from beginning to end. Her "crush" has lost his mother. Attempting to make him "smile" is not going to help him get over his loss. He needs someone to listen to him, someone to be there in whchever form he needs support.

Telling him you don't like to see him sad is counterproductive. Telling him everything will be all right is absolutely foolish.

Grief is a difficult thing to understand and the process varies from person to person.

I buried my husband. Attempting to make me smile or telling me it upset people to see me sad would have made my grief worse.

I don't understand your experience with grief or your advice.