Hey there, So the story is, I started dating a girl 2 years ago. I grew to love her, in the begging everything was great. Sexual drive was fantastic. We never had sex or did anything of that nature but kissing touching was great.

When things got more serious I started getting more into it and wanted to try new things. She was OK with some of the things, but she was a bit nervous. Soon it all went down hill. She said it was not OK and she wants to wait till marriage. We are both 21.

We do things every once and a while, but when I want to go far she stops me and tells me no, I constantly get the NO and I feel terrible because I know it makes her feel bad when we do things and I feel bad when she says no...

I do want to marry this girl but its still too soon. She never thinks about us in a sexual way either.. she never masterbaits or feels the need to have sex or want sex.. its to the point where I want to leave... what do I do?

If you want wild and hot sex, she is not the girl for you right now. If you want total love and commitment, stick with her. You don't have to have sex and won't die without it. Honor your woman and back off.

You decide right now whether your penis is more important than this girl.

If it is, then you should break up with her because you're not right for her.

If the girl is more important, you learn to masturbate and shut the heck up about sex---and stop PUSHING her.

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Originally Posted by Synnen

You decide right now whether your penis is more important than this girl.

If it is, then you should break up with her because you're not right for her.

If the girl is more important, you learn to masturbate and shut the heck up about sex---and stop PUSHING her.

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Trust me I know its not important but but yourself in my shoes. Be in a bed with a bomb girl and tell me you can just push it away

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trust me I know its not important but but yourself in my shoes. Be in a bed with a bomb girl and tell me you can just push it away

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Apparently it's important to you.

Why don't you just stop putting yourself in that situation and respect her enough to know that she's not going to have sex with you until she is married.

Stop pushing her!

Sorry, sir.

I've BEEN the girl whose boyfriend will NOT STOP PUSHING.

She doesn't want sex with you right now. The more you push, the more she's going to resent you, and the less likely you'll get ANYTHING (including kisses and holding hands) because she'll be so sure that if she gives you an inch you'll take a mile.

STOP PUSHING.

Let me put this bluntly: Short of coercion, you are NOT going to have sex with this girl until you marry her. If you're not ready for marriage and kids, then you're not ready for sex with this girl.

If you don't like that, then break up with her now, because in the end you'll both be happier with things.

You are not a right person for her,because you want to sex with the girl whom you never marry, just to hail her life.For god shake if you don't marry her you have no right to be with her any more.Leave her.

Use your hand... its your problem not hers.

I think she needs to be with a guy who's honorable and mature enough to respect that she's made a healthy choice for herself. When she marries, her husband will know she's never been with another man sexually. She is not risking a sexually transmitted disease (unless she's doing other sexual things that are risky), and is not risking pregnancy.

For the man that means you have to back off, support and respect her and be satisfied with where she draws the line. She probably would do best with a man who is also committed to waiting until marriage for sex.

I think you should break up, but not because she won't do what you want. I think you should break up because you aren't treating her properly.

Wow. So much hate on this thread... -.-
If she does break under pressure and have sex with you, tell me was it worth it? Even if she doesn't regret/resent you for it (unlikely but who knows she will REALLY enjoy it).
Knowing that this happened BECAUSE you pressured not because she wanted to.. is that what you really want?

If yes, then you should find someone else.. you guys are not sexually compatible and neither of you are willing to change their sexual compatibility for one another. Find someone else with same sexual views.. someone who wants to have sex as much as you, before marriage..

Lets say you waited few years and married this girl.. there's a HUGE possibility that she will want it once in a month whereas you want it lets say everyday.. another issue.. it will never end. So find someone else unless you are willing to change your sexual schedule