My girlfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now. I'm 25 and she's 19 and we are very much in love. She puts no effort into pleasing me at all. She is always so angry and impatient whenever I come on to her, she huffs and sighs and as a result of this whenever we do have sex, it's over in a minute because I'm so excited to actually get it. She always puts other stuff in front of me not wanting to please me or care for me in the same way I do for her. When we started going out we had a great sex life, we did it several times a day but now I'm lucky if we have sex once a fortnight. Every time I try to bring up the subject, she just gets angry, sleeps all the time. I am willing to put in the effort but I am so sick of waiting for her to want me. I just know that if I could give her one great orgasm, I'd be able to change things and she'd see how good things can be between us. Please help!

She is only 19. Don't rush her or it will just make her more mad. Maybe she just doesn't feel like it. You can't always think about you and what you want, maybe think more about her feelings and what she wants. Hope it helps! Xxx

How is the relationship outside of the bedroom?

I ask this because it seems like she's a tad bit controlling and that is affecting the entire dynamic of the relationship.

I also think the statement, "If I could give her one great orgasm,", is very... near-sighted. How many people have said similar things about lesbians? "If I could give her a proper laying than she would turn straight." I think if you two haven't clicked in two years it is probably not going to click.

It might be time to re-evaluate the state and direction of this relationship. I am not sure it is going to work out.