I'm in then grade. I had a girlfriend for 9 months and we brock up 2 months ago. I broke it off because she had a lot of problems and was very controlling. There is a girl who I am in love with that is one of my ex's good friends. I didn't breack up with my ex to get with her but that's what some people think. Me and this girl have been friends since 9th grade and she never had a boyfriend. After I brock up with my ex I started talking to her more because I had always liked her and thought we would get along great. I personally am dislexic ( might explane some of my spelling) and so is she. After talking it got out that she liked me and I liked her. She said she's always liked me. We have hung out a few times and had a look of skype setions with each other. We do go to school together and a small one only about 400 in our school. I really think I love her and I know she really likes me and she told me she loves me. She told me she's not ready for a relationship but we cudle and hold hands and talk about or love for each other when we hang out. She says she doesn't want to leave when she comes over and I'm really confused. We are up and down with our "relationship" all the time. I tried to back off her and she came back to me. I really love her more then anyone and I wrote her a poem says that whitch is something I've said before. I really scared her with the poem and feel like its all over. What should I do? I can explane other details if needed.

I understand you want to be with her because of your love for her but what about you. You are giving everything but she does not want to be in a relationship. Do you want to just be with some that you hold hands and cuddle with or do you want a relationship with meaning and possible future? I think you should give her options either she wants to be in a relationship with you or the cuddling and hand holding has to stop because it seems like she might be using you.

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Originally Posted by ayokawilson

I understand you want to be with her because of your love for her but what about you. You are giving everything but she does not want to be in a relationship. Do you want to just be with some that you hold hands and cuddle with or do you want a relationship with meaning and possible future? I think you should give her options either she wants to be in a relationship with you or the cuddling and hand holding has to stop because it seems like she might be using you.

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I honestly will bend over backwords for her and I really think she is right for me. And she isnot using me and she tells me we need to slow down a lot but then comes back. My frineds like her and so do my parents witch has never happened before. I just don't want to mess things up with her. She's a very down on herself and nobody has really ever hit on her. She is very pritty but I love her for who she is