My boyfriends ex is coming over to the house today and I don't know how I feel about it. My boyfriend don't understand where I'm getting at or how to handle me what should I do or how should I handle this?

With charm and grace. He is with you now. Be nice to her.

Is that really how to handle it because I really don't know anymore she messed us up before I guess I'm scared that she's going to try it again

How long have they been "ex" and why is she coming over?
He's your boyfriend now though.

They been ex's for a fue months and she's coming over to get her stuff she left here,

How long have you two been together? Just say hello when she comes. She should get her stuff and then leave.
What did she do before to mess you two up?

You show confidence and happiness. If you look weak, you will open the door for her to bully you.

DO NOT refer to her as his ex or talk about any of their history.

OK thanks I'm going to try that thanks

She is a stranger coming over to pick up her stuff. Be nice.

Kk will do

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