My partner works sleeps and drinks. then verbally abuses me when he gets in.

He says its all my fault

Any similar sits. and what did you do

I have two kids teenage. this has been going on for years and I put up with it.

Stop putting up with it. Suggest marriage counseling. Try to work through things. Have you ever communicated any of this to your partner. If not it is time to unless your afraid of getting abused more then it is better to do it in a public setting. How is it your fault. Do you ask him how it is your fault? Does he give you any valid concerns.

You both need to take steps to improve on the marriage. Unless it is time to take steps of saying good bye. Try making it work through counseling first. Even if he does not want to, you go yourself.

Joe