My boyfriend and I lived together during the summer. I then had to move back in with my mom because we didn't have enough money saved up to get a place here. Now, we see each other every weekend, which is fine. But our texting and phone calls are different and upsetting. It's like we constantly fight or argue over nothing. We have nothing to really say anymore and everything we talk about is mostly depressing. It wasn't like this before. We have been dating for 3 years, and we weren't like this until we moved in together then I had to go due to school. Please help me if you can. We need help fast, because I don't want us to end. I'm pregnant with his child now. It would be way too hard for us to end, but it seems like that is what we are sadly going to.

Relationships have rough points, 1 minute in love, next minute not in love, married couples fall in and out of love all the time you should talk to him, don't be over bearing and don't come across like you're freaking out... more so just concerned and wondering..

Ask him what does he think is going on between you two, get his opinion and see what he's feeling, just don't be over bearing whatever you do! That only pushes guys away

Was the pregnancy planned? Sounds like between that and money problems there is stress. How old are the both of you and how far along are you?

Thanks juicy09, yeahh I know it pushes them away, that's why I'm afraid to say anything. Although there has been quite a few times that he has brought it up himself how things have been different. And @ homegirl 50, no the pregnancy wasn't planned.. my mom is helping a lot with it though && I'm on Medicaid so that helps me. I'm 17 he's 18 and I'm 13 weeks along. The doctors say the baby's due date is April 27th. This date will be reconfirmed November 19th.

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thanks juicy09, yeahh i know it pushes them away, that's why I'm afraid to say anything. Although there has been quite a few times that he has brought it up himself how things have been different. and @ homegirl 50, no the pregnancy wasn't planned.. my mom is helping a lot with it though && I'm on Medicaid so that helps me. I'm 17 he's 18 and I'm 13 weeks along. The doctors say the baby's due date is April 27th. This date will be reconfirmed November 19th.

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Yea but u have to talk about it or it'll never get solved especially if he brings it up that's kind of a hint that he wouldn't mine talking about it but calmly

Pregnancy at that age and money problems is a big stressor. At this point, you take care of yourself for your baby, make arrangements for support from him and how active he will be in the baby's life.
This is not an ideal situation but if you two can talk it will at least keep things in the open.

Okay thanks. && yeah the baby isn't a problem. He loves kids completely && has been wanting me to be pregnant, but I didn't want to until I graduated. He will definitely be there for the baby at all times. That's something I know I can't count on. But now, everyone expects us to just jump right into a marriage. Like I've said we have been together for 3 years. I know we love each other and we have even talked about marriage, but in our heads it's in a year or 2. So I'm not sure what to do about that either. I talked to my mom about it and she said just because we are having a baby doesn't mean we HAVE to get married right away. She said that's where some marriages fail because they think they have to hurry && tie the knot without being completely prepared. I don't want that happening with us either. So I don't want to rush into it either.

Loving kids and being prepared to take care of them are two different things. You said you guys could not afford the apartment, how are you going to be able to support a child. That is stressful even when you are older married and working. Does he have a job?
Being a teenage parent is stressful. In theory your love for each other sounds great, but the reality of caring for a baby is a whole other thing.
You need to have a non confrontational talk with him and find out what's going on with him. Does he have the support of his family in all of this as well?
I wish you well.