How do I forgive my wife's affair?
I've been with my wife for 21 yrs married for half that time, I just found out that she had a 3 year affair starting the year before we got married and continued for the for two years after the wedding. I've always been in love with her and still am, but I can't get the notion of her betraying me and the length of time is a killer.
How do I get over this? When we make love I see them together not me. I need help so I can continue my life with her because that's what I truly want, but I can't forget it. I don't think I'll be able to stay with her. We are seeing a Marriage Councelor but its not helping with the visions.