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Why men is so possessive on girl?

Hi reader, I have small doubt on me, can anyone clarify me?

I like one girl very much. But she is my senior and only 7 months elder than me. I like her lot and I am so possessive on her (she told me many times to me, you are in possessive so I like you). I am not getting in which point of view she is speaking?

After 6 months, a fight came between me and girl; then we spoke each other less. Then after 3 or 4 months the words are decreased fully. Now we are not speaking each other.

After 6 months, again I am thinking about her a lot, think to speak with her.
Please help me out guys!

Regards,
A Great Men.

What did you have a fight about?

We like people sometimes but sometimes it doesn't work out the way we want it, and we no longer have contact with them. Things and feelings change but sometimes we get reminded of those feelings and they seem just as strong and good as before.Doesn't mean that HER feelings are the same,or she even wants to talk to you again.

Leave her alone unless you can deal with a possible rejection, and don't dwell on those old hard to forget good feelings. How old are you both? What was the fight about? What was possesive about you?

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Originally Posted by talaniman

We like people sometimes but sometimes it doesn't work out the way we want it, and we no longer have contact with them. Things and feelings change but sometimes we get reminded of those feelings and they seem just as strong and good as before.Doesn't mean that HER feelings are the same,or she even wants to talk to you again.

Leave her alone unless you can deal with a possible rejection, and don't dwell on those old hard to forget good feelings. How old are you both? What was the fight about? What was possesive about you?

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Thanks for the response..

This fight happens at age 20(me)... her (21)
Fight about..
I am not studying properly.. I am msging her lot.. nonstop.. (per day atmost 150+ msg) during her exam I disturbed her lot... during my exam I will message her lot..

Possessive:- I have gone with her wherever she gone(inside the coll campus only); always msgging.. during her exam I disturbed her lot... during my exam I will message her lot..

I am not able to forget her... thinking alwaysss...

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

What did you have a fight about?

Thanks for the response...

Fight about:
I am not studying properly.. I am msging her lot.. nonstop.. (per day atmost 150+ msg) during her exam I disturbed her lot... during my exam I will message her lot.

Well you are probably getting on her nerves. I know it would get on mine.

You need to back way off. Leave her alone. You are smothering her.
Concentrate on your studies, your life and give her a break.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Well you are probably getting on her nerves. I know it would get on mine.

You need to back way off. Leave her alone. You are smothering her.
Concentrate on your studies, your life and give her a break.

Hi,

I left her for 2years.. this fight happens on April 2010...
After April month, 9 or 10 months later she msged me. I replied like as usual. Chat gone for one or two weeks. After tat there is no message from her. During tat time I called her.. she is not picked the call.. after tat I left her alone for 11months.(no disturbance nothing)..

Now I was thinking to call or message her..
But I do know.. what will happen.

I think you need to leave he alone. It appears she does not want you back.

Possessive is not what you have become, a pest is a better term. That and obsessed with talking to her or having her attention.

You miss the whole point that she has not tried to give you attention in so long, and miss the hint to leave her alone. Get control of yourself, and leave her alone and focus on the more important things you should be doing for yourself, and your life.

Sorry to be so blunt about it. But leaving her alone and getting your own act together is your best course of action in my opinion. Your inability to control your own thoughts, actions, and feelings is distracting you in negative ways.

Possesive is a state of mind based in FEAR, so show some courage.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I think you need to leave he alone. It appears she does not want you back.

I am not able to forget that days.. I am thinking to speak with her (last and final time.. )
If she didn't response for that moment... then I won't disturb her..

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Possessive is not what you have become, a pest is a better term. That and obsessed with talking to her or having her attention.

You miss the whole point that she has not tried to give you attention in so long, and miss the hint to leave her alone. Get control of yourself, and leave her alone and focus on the more important things you should be doing for yourself, and your life.

Sorry to be so blunt about it. But leaving her alone and getting your own act together is your best course of action in my opinion. Your inability to control your own thoughts, actions, and feelings is distracting you in negative ways.

Possesive is a state of mind based in FEAR, so show some courage.

I am not fearing about her!. I was fell bad for last 2years about thinking her.. My mind is not going away from that golden days..

Your choice if you want to be stuck on the golden days. Maybe you should be making more and better memories with others. That's how I deal with being STUCK! It may work for you also if you try, and keep trying.

Beats drowning in your own CRAP!