Im confused an almost wanting to give up in 26 an he is 40 I have no children an he has 7 two that are grown with thete own children two that are with there mothers an 1 that will have nothing to do with him due to his mothers brain washing an two that live with us an have my heart to be honest they all have my heart an I would do anything for each an every one of them . Ive bn with this man for almost four years an for this time I have have cooked, cleaned, loved, supported, an bn through through trials of a 21, 19, 17, 16, 13, 9, an 5 year old adults an kids which are his an 4baby mammas.. I have treated my fiancé as I wanted to be treated loved, cherished an spoiled an above all wanted an needed. I love him with all my being an he tells me I was made for him an that he loves me also he tells me that he has no idea why I'm with him that I'm young beautiful smart caring an true an I could do whatever I want with my life an constantly questions why I'm with him an I tell him its because I love him for everything he his a great father supportive understanding forgiving an much more but the only fault that I c in him is that he is not any of those qualities with me he ignores me he expects that I run a good home he has no romance an forgets that I'm alive I feel I have no place but to be his made when all I want is to be his wife... Please help me

It sounds like he has got to used to you... I have this with my other half I can feel like his slave other than his girlfriend... I think the age has something to do with it and I'm not nocking that there is 7yrs between me and my fella but they don't want to do as much as us as they have done it all... U need to try talking to him about How you feel and tell him he needs to help as your starting to feel like your only there to keep the house going!

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Im confused an almost wanting to give up in 26 an he is 40 I have no children an he has 7 two that are grown with thete own children two that are with there mothers an 1 that will have nothing to do with him due to his mothers brain washing an two that live with us an have my heart to be honest they all have my heart an I would do anything for each an every one of them . Ive bn with this man for almost four years an for this time I have have cooked, cleaned, loved, supported, an bn through through trials of a 21, 19, 17, 16, 13, 9, an 5 year old adults an kids which r his an 4baby mammas.. I have treated my fiancé as I wanted to be treated loved, cherished an spoiled an above all wanted an needed. I love him with all my being an he tells me I was made for him an that he loves me also he tells me that he has no idea why I'm with him that I'm young beautiful smart caring an true an I could do whatever I want with my life an constantly questions why I'm with him an I tell him its because I love him for everything he his a great father supportive understanding forgiving an much more but the only fault that I c in him is that he is not any of those qualities with me he ignores me he expects that I run a good home he has no romance an forgets that im alive I feel I have no place but to b his made when all I want is to be his wife... Please help me

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I agree that you need to talk to him. I think if you sit down and put everything on the table you may find you have very different expectations for the relationship.

He has seven children by four different women. Has he ever been married? What is the longest any of his relationships have lasted? With the ages of his children, I have to ask how many of his relationships have over-lapped?

He may love you. He may need you in his life to take care of him and his children. He doesn't need to marry you to get his needs met. He may not know or understand what your needs are in the way of romance and attention unless you have told him. He may not care or he may think providing for you is supposed to be enough. You won't know until you talk to him.

You do have a choice. You can choose not to be his live-in housekeeper. You can choose to live your life instead of making his life easier. Do you have any interests or hobbies that give you time away from the house? Do you spend any time with your friends?

Talk with him and be certain you both want the same things in the relationship.

Sounds like he is more just looking for baby momma number 5 and he moves on.