Should I be worried that my boyfriend lies to me about where he's at or going to go visit his kids at his baby moms house?
That he doesn't answer his phone when he's over there?
He tells me that he's trying to avoid arguments and fights between us because he knows that I don't like when he goes over there and stays for long periods because his kids mom is very spiteful and immature and still wants a relationship with him and I don't put it passed her that she tries to seem appealing to him to catch his eye by flaunting herself in front of him, passed conversations I've had with her prove me the idea is possible.
She calls him often and because of that he hides his phone from me so I don't see that he has conversations with her other than it being about the kids.
I'm really uptight about this because he tells me he loves me all the time and wants to be with me and shows it majority of the time but why does he lie to me about things when it comes to her all the time, he makes me wonder a lot and we argue about the same thing all the time HER and him lying to me.
If there's nothing going on and he's not hiding any secrets when it comes to her why lie about where your at, why not answer your phone when your over there "visiting your kids" , why hide your phone all the time? Should I be worried?

Why should he answer the phone when he is spending time with his kids? He doesn't want a problem in front of the children. You are involved with a man who has kids and a past. If you don't like what goes along with it, then get out. He says he loves you. Believe him or you will lose him,

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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

Why should he answer the phone when he is spending time with his kids? He doesn't want a problem in front of the children. You are involved with a man who has kids and a past. If you don't like what goes along with it, then get out. He says he loves you. Believe him or you will lose him,

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I don't even know he's there to begin with when I call him I don't know he's over there, he sneaks over there and tells me he's with his nephew or something else! I know he he has to deal with his kids mom but she makes it a little hard to trust him she's always IM me on Facebook telling me things to make me feel uncomfortable about our relationship because she found out that I'm pregnant by him. Some things be straight lies and some things I believe she has too much proof for it to be a lie. He doesn't make it any better by denying things I already know are true, if there's nothing going on when he's going over there he should be able to answer his phone and say he's over there with his kids he'll call me back when he leaves is all... I believe everything he tells me till I find out the truth making me feel like a fool... Thanks for replying

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Originally Posted by Mz_Tiny25

I don't even know he's there to begin with when i call him i don't know he's over there, he sneaks over there n tells me he's with his nephew or something else! I know he he has to deal with his kids mom but she makes it a lil hard to trust him she's always IM me on facebook telling me things to make me feel uncomfortable about our relationship because she found out that i'm pregnant by him. Some things be straight lies n some things i believe she has too much proof for it to be a lie. He doesn't make it any better by denying things i already know are true, if there's nothing going on when he's going over there he should be able to answer his phone n say he's over there with his kids he'll call me back when he leaves is all.....i believe everything he tells me till i find out the truth making me feel like a fool.... Thanks for replying

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If you don't trust him, why did you decide to have a baby with him? This is all a trust issue between the two of you. He doesn't sound trustworthy, and now you are pregnant. You didn't say you were pregnant in your first post. I would recommend counseling for you two.

If a man gets caught being sneaky you tell them your done with the relationship you can't keep living life being lied to by someone that says they love and he cries and I mean literally cries and pleads with you not to leave them tries to down a variety of pills to prove his love for you would you still leave him or would you give it a second chance.

I'm confused. How is trying to kill himself, proof of his love for you?

That alone would make me run even faster than I was running before.

Right that's what I said... I said how could you do something like that and have that hanging over my head knowing you supposedly did that for me and what about your kids your family... thats what I thought I knew I wasn't crazy for asking a second opinion

Thanks for responding