Im 18 yrs old. Im attending college, but my parents are trying to control my life. They tell me when to go to bed when to wake up, and they tell me If I can or Can't go somewhere. Are they legally allowed to Control my life like that seeing as I am an adult. Also they want to kick me out, but they are still using me as a Tax write off, and keeping me as their dependent. If they keep me as their dependent am I allowed to Legally walk back Into their house. Also If if the car I have is in my name. But I'm under their insurance. Can the take my car away. They bought it for me, But its under my name? Any help would be greatly appreciated

Yes they can kick you out even if they write you off while you are a full time college student. If you support yourself and pay for college, file your own taxes, and then they can't deduct you.
You can stall the eviction process of course, but as an adult, you have no rights of tenancy just because you are their child.
They can't take a car that has your name on the title, but they can cancel the insurance in a heartbeat. (Is the title free of any bank lien?)
Time to get some financial ducks in a row, I think. I don't think you fully understand what they shell out for you vs what you give back in return, in terms of appreciation and of going by the rules of the home they are paying for.

I am going to college off a running scholarship so they don't pay for my college.
And can my parents "ground" me and say I can't compete in an event, when I need to, to keep my scholarship money. The Scholarship is enough for me to pocket some, so I have some money and helped pay some of their rent as well. What legal rights do I have in this situation. Im no officially evicted can I walk in and go to sleep tonight?

Yes, you are legally allowed walk in and sleep tonight.
I suggest that you plan a time (before they find a way to lock you out, forcing you to call the police, which I would suggest you don't do) for a rational calm family discussion about finances, rights and rules. Ask before tonight for that meeting.

An impartial third party would be helpful, perhaps someone from your school, a coach or teacher?

A word of caution: I'll bet that they still pay most of your day to day expenses, whether you realize it or not, so giving in to rules is to your advantage while in school. 'Some of their rent' here and there? Hmm. I wonder just how much... and what about food, clothes, cell phone bill, cable, internet, and so on?

Is this new behavior on their part? If so, why?

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Originally Posted by joypulv

Yes, you are legally allowed walk in and sleep tonight.
I suggest that you plan a time (before they find a way to lock you out, forcing you to call the police, which I would suggest you don't do) for a rational calm family discussion about finances, rights and rules. Ask before tonight for that meeting.

An impartial third party would be helpful, perhaps someone from your school, a coach or teacher?

A word of caution: I'll bet that they still pay most of your day to day expenses, whether you realize it or not, so giving in to rules is to your advantage while in school. 'Some of their rent' here and there? Hmm. I wonder just how much... and what about food, clothes, cell phone bill, cable, internet, and so on?

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I buy my own food, and my clothes. They pay my cell phone bill, cable, internet, and my car Insurance. My mom is disabled, but it seems like she has a psychological need of importance. She tells everyone in the house what to do (Including my Dad who pays the bills) and expects it done or she will leave. She feels like she is the queen of the house and we are all lazy good for nothings. I am also her adopted son, and was never treated the same as her biological son. I have a substantial amount of money in the bank, from my birth parents, that she has access too, Can I make it so that she can't access it anymore. My younger brother is 16 and in the same boat. He also has a substantial amount of money in the bank as well. How can I make it so that she doesn't have access to any of it

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My mom is disabled, but it seems like she has a psychological need of importance.

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Maybe because she has lost some physical control of her life she needs to find control where she can.

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How can I make it so that she doesn't have access to any of it

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You drive to a bank and you open a checking and/or savings account there and transfer your money to the new account(s). This is not rocket science. Be careful about hidden fees for how low an account can go, if accounts are overdrawn, if there is a charge for checks (and how to get them), etc.

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Is this new behavior on their part? If so, why??

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Im not their biological son, and they didn't treat me all that great. Her actual son (who is 20) can do whatever he wants. But My little brother, Dad, and I cant. Their son is a high school dropout, and is living at home. I graduated from high school with honors, and I am paying my way through school, and I'm getting treated like a second class citizen while he is treated like a prince. My dad started siding with my mom as well. So everyone in the house is against me and my little brother.

Please tell us what 'she has access to' means in terms of money in the bank.
Are you related to her or to your dad, and is that why your birth parents put money in the bank for your care? Is it a trust, a joint checking or savings account, what? Isn't there a provision for what happens to that money at a certain time, or under certain conditions (such as turning 18 or graduating from college)? Could any of the attitude change have to do with what is going to happen with that money, such as go to you?

First, you live in their house you follow their rules. But they have no control over you other than that. If you don't follow their rules they can evict you (but have to do it legally).

If they try to prevent you from fulfilling your scholarship obligations tell them no, they can't hold you prisoner.

I walked in the house because I still have a key to their house. My mom asked for the key, I told her no, then she said "then get out". If I gave her they key I wouldn't have been able to get in the house anymore. So, I walked past her into my room and she came in furious. I told her I am legally allowed to sleep there. She flipped out saying I have no respect for her and I needed to give her the key to the house. I responded with "you can have the key once you evict me from the house, but know this, if im evicted Im taking my money with me." Because I pocket about 8,000 a semester from my scholarships, and I have around 30,000 dollars in the bank that she has access to. It might not sound like a whole lot, but to our family it is. Hopefully she rethinks her course of action and tries to have a sit down with me. Although I doubt it. Thanks for the advice guys

Let me see, so tomorrow morning she goes downs and takes the money out of the bank, evicts you and you are left on the street with no money.

You are disrespectful, and it is their home, If you do not want to live under their rules, then move, Personally if you were my child and told my wife that, I would change the locks, legal or not and tell you tough luck. Remember 1000's of people are evicted illegally, police normally do nothing.

You certainly picked out what you wanted from the advice. What you chose may get you through the next 30 days. Lots of luck living in your car and paying ALL your own bills. Car insurance alone, yikes.

Hopefully she chooses a sit down with you? It should be you suggesting that. I don't think you see the writing on the wall. And no, 8K a semester isn't a lot, nor is 30K in the bank.

I appreciate your frustration over preferential treatment all these years. I understand you are young and I forget how much I fought with my mother (actually I don't forget, I just find it easier to preach to you about all I have learned since then).

I'm just hoping you can see who is holding the cards here, and it isn't you as much as you think. You even say 'my room' when it isn't your room if your parents say it isn't and evict you. You can't have the perks and bennies of being a minor child and an adult at the same time.