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  • Oct 21, 2012, 05:22 AM
    cb2121
    Who is the father?
    Me and my daughter father had recently just broke up, I moved back home and started seeing someone else. We had sex in like the beginning of June (like the first two weeks), I came on my period in the month of June (June 21) it was
    A normal period, then me and my daughter father ended up getting back together and we ended up having sex at the end of June when I moved back with
    Hlm. I didn't come on my period for July .I am now17 weeks pregnant. I believe that its my daughter father baby but I'm not actually sure.. I asked several people could it be the other dudes baby and they told me if I came on after we had sexual intercourse then its not his, its my daughter father. I just need some advice because I'm freaked out right now. Can I please other peoples advice and what you think?
  • Oct 21, 2012, 08:06 AM
    cdad
    The medical reason for a menstrual cycle is to shed the egg that had been released for fertilization. So if you had a period after then most likely your not pregnant with that man.

    What I do find bothersome is that you seem to be having unprotected sex and having children with unreliable prospective fathers. You might want to start reconsidering what you have been doing and get your life together.
  • Oct 21, 2012, 05:38 PM
    Enigma1999
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    The medical reason for a menstrual cycle is to shed the egg that had been released for fertilization. So if you had a period after then most likely your not pregnant with that man.

    What I do find bothersome is that you seem to be having unprotected sex and having children with unreliable prospective fathers. You might want to start reconsidering what you have been doing and get your life together.
    I'm sorry, but where do you get that her daughter's father is unreliable? Are you including him as one of the "prospective" fathers?

    I'm not condoning what she did, but I don't think we should assume that they, or at least he is unreliable.

    For all we know, he (daughter's father) could be an upstanding guy who could be a victim of circumstance.
  • Oct 21, 2012, 06:25 PM
    cdad
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Enigma1999 View Post
    I'm sorry, but where do you get that her daughter's father is unreliable? Are you including him as one of the "prospective" fathers?

    I'm not condoning what she did, but I don't think we should assume that they, or atleast he is unreliable.

    For all we know, he (daughter's father) could be an upstanding guy who could be a victim of circumstance.
    From the timeline it looks like there is no steady relationship that is ongoing that can be depended upon. That is not healthy for raising children in.
  • Oct 21, 2012, 06:35 PM
    Enigma1999
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    From the timeline it looks like there is no steady relationship that is ongoing that can be depended upon. That is not healthy for raising children in.
    Agreed. Perhaps it is she that is unreliable, not the men.
  • Oct 21, 2012, 08:17 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Actually the sex was a couple week apart, from my best estimate from your post.

    It is possible to be pregnant and have the first normal period, esp if the sex was near the time of the period.

    So honestly it could be either of them, there is no way to be 100 percent sure until the child is born and you have a DNA done
  • Oct 22, 2012, 04:51 PM
    cb2121
    Actually I didn't have unprotected sex with my friend. When I found out I was pregnant, and I told him it that it wasn't his it was my daughter father he felt some tye of way and claimed that when we were having sexual entercourse,he took off the condom. So know the whole story before you start juding. I was with my daughter father for 4 1/2 years and just happened to take a little break.. THANK YHU
  • Oct 22, 2012, 05:30 PM
    Enigma1999
    "actually i didnt have unprotected sex with my friend. when i found out i was pregnant, and i told him it that it wasnt his it was my daughter father he felt some tye of way and claimed that when we was having sexual entercourse,he took off the condom. So know the whole story before you start juding. I was with my daughter father for 4 1/2 years and just happened to take a little break .. THANK YHU"

    But you didn't post the whole story, or at least more than what you gave us...

    How are the three of us supposed to know the whole story when you didn't elaborate on anything? We are simply going off based on what you have told us.
  • Oct 23, 2012, 09:50 AM
    cdad
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by cb2121 View Post
    actually i didnt have unprotected sex with my friend. when i found out i was pregnant, and i told him it that it wasnt his it was my daughter father he felt some tye of way and claimed that when we was having sexual entercourse,he took off the condom. So know the whole story before you start juding. I was with my daughter father for 4 1/2 years and just happened to take a little break .. THANK YHU
    Taking off the condom IS unprotected sex. What are you trying to explain here?
  • Oct 23, 2012, 10:08 AM
    Mommydear89
    The fact that you are 17 weeks pregnant puts the date of conception June 26th. Sperm can only live up to 3 days before dying or attaching itself to the egg. If you did not have sex with anyone else in June. Then the father is the same as your daughters. :)
  • Oct 23, 2012, 10:11 AM
    Mommydear89
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Mommydear89 View Post
    The fact that you are 17 weeks pregnant puts the date of conception June 26th. Sperm can only live up to 3 days before dieing or attaching itself to the egg. If you did not have sex with anyone else in June. Then the father is the same as your daughters. :)
    After your period I meant. I do agree that you can have bleeding after you become pregnant. It's called shedding of the egg. Which could possibly mean the other guy. Unlikely though.
  • Oct 23, 2012, 02:26 PM
    sufmom
    I think its your husband's baby.

    But you shouldn't have cheat your hubby. I am a woman and a mom of 2. I have also cheated my hubby but am feeling guilty now.
  • Oct 23, 2012, 06:50 PM
    Enigma1999
    I guess I don't understand the whole cheating thing...

    Perhaps the words " I do" don't mean anything...
  • Oct 23, 2012, 06:53 PM
    Enigma1999
    Also, where does it state that the OP cheated? They were broken up...
  • Oct 24, 2012, 02:31 PM
    cdad
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Enigma1999 View Post
    Also, where does it state that the OP cheated? They were broken up...
    It doesn't. You are correct. And yes there are still some of us out there that hold to the meaning of I do.

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