I am worried I might lose my boyfriend because in the past few months I have been too hard on him for telling people our problems. He is my first boyfriend and I can't afford to lose him I love him too much that I might just do something stupid. He doesn't amswer the fone I always go meet him. What do I do?

Tahira, how long have you been dating?

He is your first boyfriend. It doesn't mean he will be your last boyfriend. Loving someone doesn't mean you will be with them forever or that the relationship will work out.

First relationships are a lesson in learning how to behave, what to expect and what you will put up with from a partner. They rarely last and it does hurt when they don't seem to be working out or end. However, we do survive and we do heal and we do go on to have other and usually better relationships.

It may not feel like it right now, but you will survive. No male is worth hurting yourself over or doing anything else that is equally ill-advised.

If you are constantly trying to contact him, stop. Let him contact you. In the meantime go about your own life. Do things you enjoy. Have fun with your friends. Don't wait by the phone and hope he calls. Keep yourself distracted. It will help.

Do you mind explaining what you mean by this:

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he doesn't amswer the fone I always go meet him

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I want you to be honest with yourself about the answer to this question: Are you the only one who has been putting any effort into keeping this relationship together?

1 and a half year. He gets irritated when I ask him anything. He always says I ve got another boyfriend and it hurts me. When I don't sms or call he says I forgot him. I don't know what to do.