Hi I'm 20 my boyfriend can't get me off in anyway I've tried everything toys.. He barely wants to have sex cause he can't get me off I used to be able to but now I can't I don't know why?

Can you reach orgasm by yourself?

A lot of women can't get off through sex alone. Sometimes the expectation of orgasm will prevent the orgasm from happening. There are a multitude of reasons.

What has changed singe the last time you got off?

So are you telling him exactly where to be at and what to do, I mean in the fore and after play. A large majority of women can't reach orgasm during actual sex. But he should with hand, oral or toys before sex intercourse starts.

Pressure to have an orgasm can cause the exact opposite effect. It can keep your mind distracted and from allowing the feedback loop between mind and body to build up.

Try going into sex without either of you expecting you to climax. Enjoy each other and focus on the moment instead of on having an orgasm.

Make certain that you are mentally stimulated and wanting sex. For women, orgasm begins in the brain and like arousal, it starts long before your clothes ever come off.

Is your sex life stagnating? Do you spend time building up the relationship, spending time together before expecting sex or getting together to have sex?