Everyday at lunch my friends boyfriend always sits next to me. Yesterday he told me I had pretty eyes and I think he was flirting. After I come home from school he always texts me and I think I like him but don't want to ruin his and my friends friendship. But I have a boyfriend too but I am on and off about him sometimes. So what should I do? Should I tell him that I like him or not? Please help

I think you should say, "I have a boyfriend and you are dating my friend. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or ruin my friendship so we have to keep it at just friends". If your friend moves on from him later on, and you and your boyfriend break up, you can date this boy later. For now, it would do more damage to your friendships than it's worth and create a lot of obnoxious drama and hurt feelings. If you aren't into your boyfriend any more, you should break up with him and try to be nice about it so you can stay friends. This other boy needs to be respectful of his current girlfriend - if he treats her badly by flirting with you on the side, imagine how he'll treat you once you've dated a while and it's not new and exciting any more. If a boy isn't honorable to other people when he starts dating you, he won't be honorable to you later on. Always remember that.

Just be onist with him if you like him go out with him and if you like him to go with the one you like best that is my advise and I am single

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Originally Posted by randalhall

just be onist with him if you like him go out with him and if you like him to go with the one you like best that is my advise and i am single

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SMH! Onist? Seriously? It's honest! Onist isn't even close to being a word!

It's not "honest" to interfere in your friend's relationship. That's called "cheating". Some people think that they must blurt out their every thought or feeling to be "honest" but that can be wreckless and hurtful and it's entirely appropriate and honest and ethical to keep some things to yourself.

You do not show interest with or flirt with another boy when you have a boyfriend. You do not flirt with or show interest in a boy who is dating someone else, most especially if they are dating your friend. It sounds like you are really young - these young relationships tend not to last very long, so wait it out. Break up with your boyfriend - you aren't that into him and are wasting his time. Hang out with the girls and groups of boys and girls and don't worry about getting another boyfriend right away. Watch how this boy treats your friend. If he treats her badly by coming home and texting you, flirting with and complimenting you - well, he'll do the same when he's dating you, but with some other girl.

That doesn't make him a bad guy, but it does make him a guy who is not ready in his life to be committed to one girl in an exclusive dating relationship.