I have a very serious problem going on right now. I am currently dating a guy who is separated and has two daughters that he loves very much. I haven't met them yet but when ever he brings them up I feel intense jealousy and have snapped twice. This last time that we got in an argument about it I felt like I lost him and I think that if I do it again he will be done with me forever. He wanted to bring them by where I work and I lost it. Said that I was jealous that they get to spend time with him and I don't. He says that I need to fix my problem with his kids or there will never be us and that I am pushing him away. I don't know what to do and have NO idea why the thought of him with his daughters makes me so insanely jealous! Even if things don't work out with him I need to get over this weird problem if I am ever going to have a family of my own. I am almost 30 and totally in love with him and I don't want to lose him because of this. I want a family and life with him but I don't know how to fix this problem. PLEASE HELP!!

You have the question and the answer too.my dad loves me but it doesn't mean he doesn't care for my mom.Your guy's care for his daughters is an indication that he is a family man.Dont be jealous.Meet his daughters.a good bonding with them will make your relation with this man stronger.Believe me,it doesn't matter how strong is the flame of love between two people, it's the family that eventually completes their world.

If you 'lose it' just because he suggests a visit between you and his daughters, then this is definitely not the relationship for you. But, I think you should at least give the situation a chance and spend a little time with him and his kids before making any decisions. If you still feel the envy that you do and you know your behavior is inappropriate but you can't/won't change, then leave. He needs to find someone that is willing to accept his children. It won't be fair to him if you are constantly making him feel badly about trying to spend time with his daughters and you won't be happy if you always feel neglected.