My ex of five years started seeing a new girl right after we broke up. We ran into each other at work and he came up to me and we talked for like twenty minutes about whatever. He hugged me as we left and it seemed like he was going to cry. He text me about an hour later saying he was "sorry for all he put me through" and that "we went from best friends to not friends in one day and he was sorry" I didn't respond.

The next morning he sent me the same text only in different words. So I wrote something simple back like "I believe in fate" and that "I had forgiven him". He wrote back that he "will never forget all the cool stuff we did and that he was just a phone call away". WHAT IS HE SAYING??

Ask him directly and eliminate the need for assuming, presuming, and speculating.

Seeing each other after so long must have stirred up old long dead feelings.

If he shuts me down ill die:(

Then protect yourself, and eliminate this contact. How old are you both?

Then don't call him if you would "die" you broke up before, and may again. Why did you break up before, are there similar issues still ?

Often after many years, we only remember the good, and start talking but the old problems soon are remembered and getting back fails.

He may only be nice or just thought it would be fun to "chat"

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Then protect yourself, and eliminate this contact. How old are you both?

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I am 26 and he is 29

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Then don't call him if you would "die" you broke up before, and may again. Why did you break up before, are there simular issues still ?

Often after many years, we only remember the good, and start talking but the old problems soon are remembered and getting back fails.

he may only be nice or just thought it would be fun to "chat"

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We broke up because he was very degrading to me. He has a big ego and is very arrogant. I broke up with him because he couldn't see how he talked to me and wouldn't even try to change but the second we broke up he had a new girlfriend before I could even move out of the house we shared for five years. I think he was just being nice and saw an opportunity to get his apologies off his chest because their has been no further contact. I guess I just need to move on.

Look up narcissistic personality disorder on the internet. I just read in your statement that he was arrogant and degrading to you. Ironically, the big ego and arrogance is only a false persona in people with narcissism but the fact that he replaced you right away lends me to believe he may be one of those and just needed to replace his supply. Consider yourself lucky and pity the next victim of his. If he truly is NPD than he can never give real love.