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  • Oct 10, 2012, 03:49 PM
    smiggy20101
    How to gain trust back?
    Right basically me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 months now, and I've been a bad person and done some horrible things to her. At the start we were so happy, and everything was perfect and I couldn't of asked for anything more. She trusted me, I trusted her.

    Then she went on holiday and I started talking to my ex behind her back. Then one of my so called mates told her about it, and all hell broke loose. Now our relationship is in bits. She wants to be with me and be happy and love me but she doesn't trust me and she thinks I'm a bad person and if she gains my trust back that I am going to hurt her again.

    What do I do to show her its never going to happen again and how do I show her how much I love her and that I can be trusted and can not lose her someone else?

    How do I get everything back?

    I want my girlfriend to trust me again, what do I do??
  • Oct 14, 2012, 04:33 PM
    Alty
    You stop doing things that make her mistrust you.
  • Oct 14, 2012, 04:46 PM
    teacherjenn4
    Whatever you did to make her mistrust you must be addressed or she won't be able to trust you again.
  • Oct 15, 2012, 03:23 AM
    smiggy20101
    Make or break point...
    My girlfriend is currently thinking about whether to stay with me or whether to leave me.is there anyway I can.try and persuade her to stay it's the last straw now :(
  • Oct 15, 2012, 05:09 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    Without knowing why it is the last straw, drinking, drug use, cheating. You abuse her mentally,

    Often at the last straw it is really too late and to be honest you would not really change, if you were going to change you would have before this.

    You first need to look seriously and honestly, if it is really worth saving, is there a actual relationship left ?
  • Oct 15, 2012, 08:17 AM
    smiggy20101
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    Without knowing why it is the last straw, drinking, drug use, cheating. You abuse her mentally,

    Often at the last straw it is really too late and to be honest you would not really change, if you were going to change you would have before this.

    You first need to look seriously and honestly, if it is really worth saving, is there a actual relationship left ?

    i.was basically texting and talking to.my ex and meeting her without telling My current girlfriend nothing haple.d I dodnt cheat but she hated whay I did then some ex shag bsmasically asked ne to be her budy and I basocally beated round the bush and said no.insyead of just sayong no
  • Oct 17, 2012, 01:51 AM
    smiggy20101
    My girlfriend and her ex
    For over a week my girlfriend has been seeing her ex boyfreind every day we went away just me and her on.friday for a weekend away and she was having mood changes all weekend and not being the same and then she's seen him.yesterday and Monday.nd now she wants a seriousctalk.about us tonight because she doeant trust me can anybody tell me anything about this
  • Oct 17, 2012, 01:59 AM
    joypulv
    No. How could we? She seems to be getting back with her ex from what you say. The bit about not trusting you - you tell us. Did you do something untrustworthy? Or is this a smokescreen on her part, to find an excuse to break up with you?
  • Oct 17, 2012, 04:32 AM
    smiggy20101
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    No. How could we? She seems to be getting back with her ex from what you say. The bit about not trusting you - you tell us. Did you do something untrustworthy? Or is this a smokescreen on her part, to find an excuse to break up with you?

    Ice never done anything to.hurt her I think.she just wants he of an ex back
  • Oct 17, 2012, 05:11 AM
    joypulv
    Then tell her to be honest instead of blaming you.
    You may be weak with pain but have all day to toughen up a little.
    Tell her if she's going back to him don't come running back to you when she remembers why they broke up.
  • Oct 18, 2012, 03:39 AM
    smiggy20101
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    Then tell her to be honest instead of blaming you.
    You may be weak with pain but have all day to toughen up a little.
    Tell her if she's going back to him don't come running back to you when she remembers why they broke up.

    She split up with me yesterday and said i.just don't want to.be with you for now
  • Oct 18, 2012, 04:00 AM
    joypulv
    She went back to her ex.. happens all the time.
    Chances are, they will break up again, when they realize why the broke up the first time.
    If she wants to come back to you... I hope you don't accept. Or it will happen again and again, if not with this ex, with another.
  • Oct 18, 2012, 04:58 AM
    kitty bacchus
    She going to get back with your ex
  • Oct 20, 2012, 10:10 AM
    smiggy20101
    Want her back
    My girlfriend split up.with me on.wednsday she said she doesn't want us to be together for now she said she wants me to earn a little respect for her what can I do to get her back?
  • Oct 20, 2012, 10:13 AM
    teacherjenn4
    Leave her alone and respect her wishes.

    Also, looking back at your old threads, you were seeing an ex behind her back? If so, you deserve to have what happened to you.
  • Oct 20, 2012, 10:16 AM
    Wondergirl
    What were you doing that now you have to "earn respect"?
  • Oct 20, 2012, 05:05 PM
    talaniman
    Amazing how the facts are different when multiple threads are started. When you do wrong you have consequences to pay. Going behind her back with the ex was not a show of love, honor, respect, or good judgment, that's why YOUR friends told on you.

    The only thing that's left is an apology, and being honest in the future whether she takes you back, or NOT!
  • Oct 20, 2012, 05:13 PM
    Gamed
    Every time you do something like that its like taking a knife and cutting your relationship the wound will heal in time but sometimes a scar will be their forever.
  • Dec 2, 2012, 09:06 PM
    SweetPea95
    Don't talk to your exs behind her back. I hate it when my boyfriend talks to other girls and doesn't tell me because I don't know if he cheating or not, and I don't want to think that he his. BUT when he asks me if it is all right to a talk to a friend that is a girl, that makes me feel much more confident that he won't hurt me. Just don't lie or do anything wrong. Tell her who your talking to if she asks or she gives you a strange look. It might get annoying but it helps. Show her that your not doing anything wrong

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