My husband paid lobola for me in 2001 and we now have 2 kids (boys). He is a well known advocate and I'm unemployed. I have asked him when are we going to get married and his answer was if I want to get married I need to find a boyfriend who will marry me. If we disagree about something then he will stay angry for more than 4 months without eating my food, making love to me, kissing or even talking to me. We are now without electricity in the house for 2 days,no food,no toiletry he just wakeup and leave for work. I am scared to leave because then I will loose my kids as he is a well known advocate. He is abusing me emotionally please help me, I really need help PLEASE

Why did you ask him to marry you if he's your husband. YOu can't have your children living in a house with no lights or toiletrys. What did you mean by he paid you lo something. There are people out there that will help you and your kids. He sounds abusive and controlling. You decide what you want out of your life and set boundaries as to what you'll put up with from people.

So go out and get a job, Make a point, ask him how well known he will be if people start hearing about how bad he treats you.

This is not how you treat your familyu . So make him mad, you will not have to feed him or do anything for him. So stop feeding him, stop cleaning his clothes, refuse sex, let him find it all somewhere else. Get a job and start taking care of yourself

Yep, I agree! Time to turn the tables.

Find a job and support yourself. Definatley don't make him dinner anymore. AND don't give him sex.

He's getting off on his control over you.