My boyfriend I have been going out for about nine months. Recently I have been super stressed out and tired from school and our relationship. I have trouble maintaing a conversation with him because I feel like I'm going to say something wrong and he's going to break up with me. He keeps trying to reassure me that nothing I say will make him break up with me, but I can't believe him. I don't feel like anyone can know that. The constant reassurance isn't helping, it's just annoying. So I asked him if we could just take a break so I can get my head sorted out. After a bit of pleading, he reluctantly and scaredly agreed. Homecoming dance is in a week, he already asked me, and I said yes, but I don't know if I want to keep going out with him. I love him though... help please?!

Note: We're only 14

You're really too young to be going out any way. Just tell him how you feel. It will relieve the stress.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You're really too young to be going out any way. Just tell him how you feel. It will relieve the stress.

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That didn't help. And 14 is too young, then? How old is old enough?

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Originally Posted by Gabriellak154

And 14 is too young, then? How old is old enough?

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When you no longer have the stresses of school and making good grades is old enough.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

When you no longer have the stresses of school and making good grades is old enough.

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So you expect me to wait until I'm done with college? I have to be over 22? How old were you when you had your first boyfriend?

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Originally Posted by Gabriellak154

So you expect me to wait until I'm done with college? I have to be over 22? How old were you when you had your first boyfriend?

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I was 16 and got married at 21.5.

No one ever knows, but you don't stress, you are honest and be yourself, Until you can do that, you are too young, 14, you should be perhaps having boys that are friends, and going out but not committed to one person.

After that, a break is abreak up, just a nicer way of doing it, sedlom do you ever get back together.

So you have broken up at this point, either is free to date someone else, the question is why did you feel Breaking up was a good way to save the relationship from breaking up.

And of course at 14, perhaps 1 in 10,000 relationships ( if that many) will reach end of high school. These are the times when you are learning to deal with emotions, hormones and life. A testing ground, a learning experience of what is too come.

But yes if there was too much stress you break up, Call it taking a break, it is still a break up

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Originally Posted by Gabriellak154

That didnt help. And 14 is too young, then? How old is old enough?

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When school stuff and a relationship does not stress you out. You are obviously not able to handle this and yes, 14 is too young. You don't even know who you are at 14. Your hormones are fluctuating and you're probably just starting High School This is not the time to be tied down to one person. Have friends and fun. 16 is soon enough to start dating.