OK this is a little weird for me so please be open minded about this, I have a 13 year old daughter and well I need to know the age that girls start have periods I'm her father and only parent and I just don't know these things about girls, and also she said that she wanted to know what sex felt like and that someone told her that it would hurt at 13 years old, but I told her that she shouldn't think about things like that that she should wait until she got married but still she asked and it deserves an answer so I kind of need a woman's advice on this because I'm clueless on either part, so please help, thanks

Dear hil,
Girls normally start their periods around 10-14 yrs old. Some do not start until even later, but that is the usual range.
Sex would definetley hurt @ age 13, it does for any female the first time. You might want to make sure she knows the consequences of having sex as well, since she is obviously curious, and you probably do not want a sexually active teen. But you don't have to go into details of 'how it feels'... Im surprised she is open enough to ask, its good you have an open relationship. Hope this helps

I think weall get a little shhy when it comes to sex and talking to your kids about it. Take it from me.. I'm still 12 and I could tell you nothing about it. Yeah sure, my parents gave me these books on sex and crap but who wants to learn from a book when you have and experienced person standing ,or sleeping , on the other side of the house... so I think you should go all out on this one, tell her all about your experiences and all that you know about it... because I'm sure she'll want to hear it from you and nnot a book. Besides isn't that what parents are for.. to guide you through life, even through sex?!
WEll I hope my advise helps u make the right decision... 143!

Hey imma 14 yr old guy and id lyke to think I am pritty well educated on what goes on with females. Thurr periods I guess start around 12-15 yrs and yah sex does hurt for the furst tyme...
Being at the age I am I can tell u A lot of about sex I didn't learn any thing from my partents. But mostly from sex ed and what goes around.. I wish you the best of luck in raising your child bye

Hello! I am a 14 year old boy who started learning about sex in 5th grade after I had run across some unwanted pornographic material in a pop-up. After I saw this, I was determined to learn more about. I don't know why, but I was. I learned that is is normal for a female to begin having her period between the ages of 12 and 15. For some, it may come earlier or later since everyone is different. I do know a lot about sex. Honestly, sometimes I think I know too much about sex. I do know that for any female, sex does hurt the first time. But this pain is normal. I don't know what sex feels like for a female because I am a male, but I know that it is an experience that nothing else can compare to.

Good to hear that you are trying to educate yourself. Let me say to you that findnig the right person (i.e. someone who's company you enjoy) is much more important than the sex stuff. The sex stuff is rather easy to figure out and it will come to you in time. The relationship stuff is difficult. Remember to use condoms when having sex and abstinence is the only way to guarantee that you won't get a sexually transmitted disease. If you don't put one on then don't get it on!

I am 28 and we have all been where your daughter is right now. The best thing you can do is tell her what sex is, what happens, explain everything, since she is that open to come to you about sex she will come to you when she thinks she is ready for sex. That is when you can try and change her mind. We all have done things we wish we could change, since we can't go back and change it, we try to keep our kids from making the same mistakes, now a days though it is to scary just to sleep with someone unless you are married to them. I am thankful that I don't have to worry about all the diseases going around. Just look in your heart and see what is best for you and your daughter, no addvice is going to help you unless you are comfortable about talking about it with her.

All I can say about this is they start is different ranges I know one that started at 8 yrs old, 10, 16 yrs old, but the average is 10-14 but its also genes... I don't know what sex feels like b.c I've never done it but my mother told me it hurts because she had me at fourteen yrs old... but I do a lot of research because I asked my mother this yr I'm only 12 but my father tried to explain it and he was in the place you are and my father's best response was he explained it to me and told me... but he wasn't good at explaining but all I can say is that you just have to talk to it... knowing her, because we're about same age that I wonder too and its best for the parents to explain what it is for us to understand... Yes, we're curious... Yes, we wonder and I think you should try to explain for her to... Sorry, I'm young but I had to reply... Sorry

Well you definitely wannt to tell her that it hurts no matter what age she is it is going to hurt and tell her what it is she wants to know and she is old enough to be told the truth

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Originally Posted by hil83

ok this is a little wierd for me so please be open minded about this, i have a 13 year old daughter and well i need to know the age that girls start have periods i'm her father and only parent and i just don't know these things about girls, and also she said that she wanted to know what sex felt like and that someone told her that it would hurt at 13 years old, but i told her that she shouldn't think about things like that that she should wait until she got married but still she asked and it deserves an answer so i kinda need a womans advice on this because i'm clueless on either part, so please help, thanks

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Most girls get their periods at age 12-13 however, some can get them as young as nine or ten which is rare. And if she doesn't get it by age 16, then she needs to see a doctor.

And maybe if she's bi or lesbian shell never have that certain intercourse with a man

I'm trans ftm female to male and my friends period started at 9 nnnnoooottt 12 o.k

My daughter started at 12 and about a year before that she would get a lot of stomach aches and her breast would hurt. I really have to praise your daughter in coming to you for answers. So many don't. Especially to their fathers. Tell her the truth. If some things you don't know, go to a library and get some books. Also, if you know any female friends or family that can help you. You could get some info just off the internet. Be prepared also on pads and tampons. Kotex has a good site that helps with ?'s on periods. Read up on PMS, HA. GOOD LUCK the fun has just begun... P.S. The first time you have sex, does not always hurt and some women do not bleed the first time. It all depends on her hymen (a thin layer of tissue that is ruptured the first time you have sex. Up by the cervix. Hence, broke the cherry.) These are all the things you will need to know when you talk to her.:eek:

Hill83, She is too young to be doing it, but not too young to think it. Just give her the best answers that you can, sounds like you are doing a great job. You might want to ask a close female friend how the woman's body works so you can explain to her what she will need to do. Maybe get some "things" she will need for when she does start her period, and take it from there. I am just thinking of what my husband might do if I were not around for this extra special time in a girls life. Good luck with your young lady!

First off, I got my period when I was 13 and so did all my friends so yeah, and about the whole sex delio, I've only had sex once, at 15.. I am 15 right now acctually and it hurt really bad.. I cried. My parents never really talked to me about sex so its best that you talk to her about it. Let her know that she can come to you, that way when sex comes to her, she can come to you no matter what. Don't make it seem bad that she's curious, everyone gets curious, esspecially around that age where boys start noticing them and they start noticing boys. Your daughter going to you is better than her going to anyone else because you're a parent. I don't think you should tell her how it feels for anything because that's a little weird but tell her that it hurts the first time but if you do it with someone you love, it'll feel amazing and beautiful. Tell her to wait until she finds someone that she loves and cares about her dearly because a girls virginity is something that she can give to ONE person and ONE person only. I lost mine to a jerk and that sucks. So tell her that she should definitely wait and give it to someone who cares about her and she cares about. She's just curious so don't leave her in the dark about it. Hope this helps.

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Originally Posted by hil83

ok this is a little wierd for me so please be open minded about this, i have a 13 year old daughter and well i need to know the age that girls start have periods i'm her father and only parent and i just don't know these things about girls, and also she said that she wanted to know what sex felt like and that someone told her that it would hurt at 13 years old, but i told her that she shouldn't think about things like that that she should wait until she got married but still she asked and it deserves an answer so i kinda need a womans advice on this because i'm clueless on either part, so please help, thanks

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Well first I would say that this is about the time that she should be getting a period around 13 or 14 if it goes off and isn't normal than it's okay because she is still young. Secondly it is up to you to let her know about sex but around the age of 13 that is very young to let a child know about sex and what it may feel like. I think that this is very over the limit. I am a girl myself and I feel at that age we want to know things they shouldn't be on our mind. She may hear things from the surrounding people around her but just let her know everything you here isn't true and try to tell her the worse part of sex so she really doesent want to have sex