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  • Mar 10, 2007, 01:14 PM
    blonde1222
    My parents hate me.forever
    I know for a fact my family hates me. They make fun of me almost everyday and I get blamed on everything. My dad used to be a heavy drinker and one night he went phsyco and my mom was on my side trying to stop him drinking. It was the wrost night of my life. A couple of weeks later my mom told me she regrets being on my side and thinks I'm the huggest brat ever. My parents like my sister much better then me, and think I should grow up lke her. I don't want to grow up like her because she always puts on an "act" and think she is worth soooo much then me. Sometimes I can't do anything because I think my dad will start hitting me. They call me a screw up and that I will have no life when I'm older. They say ill never go to college and end up well screwed up again. One time my dad called me a slut and my mom was like "o well" My jaw dropped because no ones dad calls there kid a slut. I have no one to talk to because I'm too scared that they won't believe me. Im loved by no one and ,y life is seriously hell. I have nno clue what to do. What should I do?
  • Mar 10, 2007, 11:47 PM
    lalalalaLAUREN
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by blonde1222
    I know for a fact my family hates me. They make fun of me almost everyday and i get blamed on everything. My dad used to be a heavy drinker and one night he went phsyco and my mom was on my side trying to stop him drinking. It ws the wrost night of my life. A couple of weeks later my mom told me she regrets being on my side and thinks im the huggest brat ever. My parents like my sister much better then me, and think i should grow up lke her. I dont want to grow up like her because she always puts on an "act" and think she is worth soooo much then me. Sometimes i can't do anything because i think my dad will start hitting me. They call me a screw up and that i will have no life when im older. They say ill never go to college and end up well screwed up again. One time my dad called me a slut and my mom was like "o well" My jaw dropped because no ones dad calls there kid a slut. I have no one to talk to because im too scared that they wont believe me. Im loved by no one and ,y life is seriously hell. I have nno clue what to do. What should i do??

    OK maybe life might suck at home, but you got to show them up, show them your better then the rest and can do something great in your life, and don't listen to them your no screw up or slut! So smile and tell yourself each day " I CAN DO WHATEVER I WANT"
  • Mar 11, 2007, 02:30 PM
    rebel-2
    hello there, don't worry, there's only one way to go and that up!! ^ and your on your way right now! Sometimes its nice to be the black sheep but don't become rebellious.:)
    all the best!
  • Oct 25, 2007, 08:26 PM
    shorty777
    Your parents don't hate you they are probably just upset and they get mad and acidently say those things to you tell your mom that you love her and see what happends
  • Oct 26, 2007, 04:12 PM
    sawyera bisiga
    Omfg I'm so sorry I think that your parents are just mad because their lifes are just big lies and the know it so they take their anger out on you because their jealous of how unique and amazing you are don't worry about them their just your parents after 18 you have complete and utter power over what you want to do just hang in there. I get called a man-whore all the time and I've only kissed one girl because I love her but its just because they are just lost and confused and they need someone who has their life on track to throw their misery at, don't worry about them.


    When your parents are older put them in a retirment home!! :p

    Just hang in their everything going to be all right:)))
  • Dec 27, 2007, 07:23 PM
    mitzi56
    I don't think they hate you but they are definitely wrong in the way their treating you. Your dad having been an alcoholic is probably where his stuff comes from so its not you, and your moms confused obviously. Just focus on how your going to survive and make it on your own one day. Education is important if your doing well in that area. But a job would be a great start and get you away from them a little more. Hang in there and think about the cool apartment your going to have one day and the type of car your going to have. Stay away from them as much as you can if their hurting you emotionally. Justkeep busy and for gods sake don't go to drugs or alcholhol or all your dreams will not come true
  • Dec 28, 2007, 12:06 AM
    ohdangitsaudrey
    Honestly, I don't know what to say. But I've been in what seemed to be pretty down moments and talking it out to friends really help.

    &if nobody understands or believes.. try saying it outloud and not let it fester inside yourself. I think it's a matter of getting it out of your system.
    Well, I don't know if this helped or not! But goodluck!
  • Dec 28, 2007, 07:49 AM
    mitzi56
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ohdangitsaudrey
    honestly, idk what to say. but i've been in what seemed to be pretty down moments and talking it out to friends really help.

    &if nobody understands or believes .. try saying it outloud and not let it fester inside yourself. i think it's a matter of getting it out of your system.
    well, idk if this helped or not! but goodluck!

    Thank you, it always helps when I get back input from anyone. It means someone believes me and wants to care, what more could a person ask for right? Festering is something I learned in therapy so that's why I posted my question.:)
  • Dec 30, 2007, 02:02 AM
    Thisby649
    In a situation like this I think talking to a school counsellor is a good idea, you can vent out everything, get advice, and it's completely confidential! And maybe on weekends and after school you could go to a friends house to get away from your family a bit. Another thing you could do which I found helpful in rough times is writing. You can write poems, songs, journal entries or even random stories. I hope I've been helpful! Emily
  • Mar 20, 2011, 06:35 AM
    NoName222
    Exactly the same. My parents call me fat, a pig, a dirt bag, ugly, smelly & a lot of other stuff. The best thing that I do is talk to my friends about it. I now spend more time at their house than I do at home. & also when they're around anybody they put on a "we're the best parents in the world" act. It stinks because if I say anything, I'll get called names again. & they clearly like my sisters better than me. Me & my sisters will have a little argumemt, then they'll blame me on it saying "this wouldn't happen if you weren't here". It really does hurt because I see some of my friends have really strong relationships with their parents, & sometimes I wonder, why can't I be like them?
  • Nov 4, 2011, 04:45 AM
    dolphin_guy
  • Jan 3, 2013, 11:55 AM
    ownerofabadmind
    I know how you feel. My parents hate me to, only they don't show it. At first I thought they loved me. When I say they I mean my dad. My mum I know loves me. Do you have any relatives to talk this over with? I just keep quiet and let it sink in otherwise I would get punished. Hope this helps :-) >email removed< if this helped you

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