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  • Oct 2, 2012, 10:57 AM
    Melipxndx
    Boyfriend Trouble
    Ok! This is a very long story so I'm going to start:p OK so I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 28 I know big age difference.so my boyfriend has a bas reputation with all my family because he used to be a drug addict and he would give some to my cousin but jut because my cousin wanted some and if she didn't get it from him she would go to someone else who would rip her off and my family thinks that he got her into all that drug stuff D: which he didn't she was already hooked up on drugs! We've been dating for 6 months now but the problem is we have a long distance relationship he's in mexico and in here in cali! And my family doesn't know that in dating him and if they found out OMG they would kill me they HATE him!and since we har a long distance relationship I don't see him in person so that makes it a problem for me because I can get over him easily which I don't want to do because I really do love him:)) but since I've been here in cali I found a cute guy that likes me and I'm starting to like him D: so people PLEASEEE help me I don't know what to do :(
  • Oct 2, 2012, 01:04 PM
    C0bra_M3nace
    He's 28 and your 16? Do you realize that if anyone found out that he's simply contacting you he can go to jail for a long time. What a 28 year old wants with a 16 year old is beyond me but I've seen worse I guess.

    Stop talking to this guy and start dating people your own age before you get yourself into a lot of trouble.
  • Oct 2, 2012, 01:19 PM
    Melipxndx
    I know and I actually want to break up with him but I don't know how to tell him:-/ by the way he's from mexico and I'm in cali
  • Oct 2, 2012, 01:25 PM
    C0bra_M3nace
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Melipxndx View Post
    I know and i actually want to break up with him but i dont know how to tell him:-/ btw hes from mexico and im in cali
    Tell him he's too old for you and that he could get into huge legal trouble if he's found talking to you. Say you think it's best you both see people your own ages. Simple. It should actually be a lot easier because he's so far away.
  • Oct 2, 2012, 01:31 PM
    Melipxndx
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by C0bra_M3nace View Post
    Tell him he's too old for you and that he could get into huge legal trouble if he's found talking to you. Say you think it's best you both see people your own ages. Simple. It should actually be a lot easier because he's so far away.
    Ive been actually thinking of saying that! You knoa what yea I'm going to tell him tonight when I talk to him because I actually do like that other guy and this guy is in my age range he is 19:)) he's just 3 years older
  • Oct 2, 2012, 01:44 PM
    C0bra_M3nace
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Melipxndx View Post
    Ive been actually thinking of saying that! You knoa what yea im gonna tell him tonight when i talk to him because i actually do like that other guy and this guy is in my age range he is 19:)) hes just 3 years older
    19 is still illegal for your age. He's an adult. Are your parents okay with this?
  • Oct 2, 2012, 01:53 PM
    Melipxndx
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by C0bra_M3nace View Post
    19 is still illegal for your age. He's an adult. Are your parents okay with this?
    I know he is still illegal for my age but its wayy better then 12 years apart then just being 3 years apart but my parents are good with it! But with the other guy noo not at all
  • Oct 2, 2012, 03:17 PM
    Homegirl 50
    I don't think you are mature enough to date anybody. You are making some immature and reckless decisions.
    Stop communicating with the guy in Mexico and leave the 19 year old alone before he ends up in jail.
  • Oct 2, 2012, 03:45 PM
    Melipxndx
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    I don't think you are mature enough to date anybody. You are making some immature and reckless decisions.
    Stop communicating with the guy in Mexico and leave the 19 year old alone before he ends up in jail.
    Ummm I'm mature for my age since I grew up with older people and I know
    How to handle stuff for my age!
  • Oct 2, 2012, 04:14 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Yeah, you sure do, like getting involved with a 28 year old ex drug addict who gave drugs to your cousin, and you're now liking a 19 year old.
    You don't seem to see the problem with either relationship and you don't know what to do about your dilemma.

    You don't make wise choices especially where men are concerned. That is another thing against you. You are messing with men (who could go to jail for messing with you). What is wrong with boys your age?
  • Oct 2, 2012, 05:10 PM
    Chelsea8641
    If I were you I would just stay single for a while and maybe you will find someone you really like your own age if not then maybe the 19 year old if you end up realllllly liking him enough
  • Oct 4, 2012, 02:24 PM
    chrissylynn6
    I think you jump way too quick into "liking' people and saying that you "love" the other guy is just stupid. He is 28... and an ex. Druggie, why would you want a person like that around you anyway? Just to defy your parents? And I'm not one to hate on a 16 year old dating a 19 year old, it's 3 years... that whole legal thing is just plain stupid. That's like a 20 year old and a 23 year old.. nothing wrong with that right? So what's wrong with 16 and 19? NOTHING. GO have fun... and don't say you LOVE people so fast.. it's called infatuation. :)
  • Oct 4, 2012, 02:25 PM
    chrissylynn6
    OH, and also don't JUMP into relationships... seems like you still have a lot to figure out about who you want to date.. :) Just have fun, and I would stay single, play the field, but don't go sleeping around! Especially at your age... you don't want to become a skank.
  • Oct 4, 2012, 02:30 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by chrissylynn6 View Post
    I think you jump way too quick into "liking' people and saying that you "love" the other guy is just stupid. He is 28... and an ex. Druggie, why would you want a person like that around you anyways? Just to defy your parents? And i'm not one to hate on a 16 year old dating a 19 year old, it's 3 years... that whole legal thing is just plain stupid. That's like a 20 year old and a 23 year old..nothing wrong with that right? so what's wrong with 16 and 19? NOTHING. GO have fun...and don't say you LOVE people so fast..it's called infatuation. :)
    Depending on where she lives 16 and 19 is something. It can be jail time for him.
  • Oct 4, 2012, 02:39 PM
    Melipxndx
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by chrissylynn6 View Post
    OH, and also don't JUMP into relationships.... seems like you still have a lot to figure out about who you want to date.. :) Just have fun, and I would stay single, play the field, but don't go sleeping around! Especially at your age... you don't want to become a skank.
    I already broke up with him so its all good I understand where you guys are coming from I really do get it! Thanks for the advice I really appreciate it:) ad the 19 year old were beginning to talk and I don't like him yet just as a friend
  • Oct 6, 2012, 09:58 PM
    chrissylynn6
    Well I hope this helped you :)
  • Oct 6, 2012, 10:01 PM
    Melipxndx
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by chrissylynn6 View Post
    Well I hope this helped you :)
    It really did thank you:)
  • Oct 7, 2012, 01:39 AM
    louise1928
    Oh my god 28! He is much to old, from the history youv'e said he has not good. Dump him and go out with people your on age before you get yourself into trouble! Thid.s 19 year old guy, he's still abit old but it's better than 28! Good luck

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