My boyfriend is very nice, caring, sweet but sometimes he tend to be rude to me like when I am telling him about how's my work been and while talking to him.. I notice most of the time that he's not paying attention with my stories nor he find his way to do something else such as play the dogs.. I asked him that if you're not interested with my stories then just let me know and he said that he was listening.. I think it's rude if you're talking to someone and that person doesn't show any interest. We fight most of the time with small things. I even thought to myself that my boyfriend seems like he has ADHD problem. Also I don't feel desirable anymore since we make love like once a month, before when we're just new.. we do it everyday and he asked for it until I moved in with him our sex still been good like everyday, 4x a week, 3x a week, 2x a week and gotten just once a week until now it's been a month that I haven't had sex with him. It frustrate me somehow, what should I do? We both love each other but I don't feel that am desirable or him not attracted to me anymore.

Have you talked to him about all of this in a clear, non confrontational way?

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Originally Posted by Alty

Have you talked to him about all of this in a clear, non confrontational way?

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I never mention to him about my frustration with sex but whenever he did something rude action that annoys me.. I let him know and he get very emotional by it, asking why I get mad at him often and assumes that am not happy with him anymore which is I am happy being with him.. I just get annoyed mad to his rude actions and it's most of the time. I also has very short patients in general.

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Originally Posted by undesirable1

I never mention to him about my frustration with sex but whenever he did something rude action that annoys me.. I let him know and he get very emotional by it, asking why I get mad at him often and assumes that am not happy with him anymore which is I am happy being with him.. I just get annoyed mad to his rude actions and it's most of the time. I also has very short patients in general.

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Well it sounds like neither one of you knows how to communicate with the other. If you can't talk to each other about how you feel, then this relationship won't last.

Sit down with him. Tell him how you feel about everything, ask him how he feels. Don't get angry, talk calmly and rationally, don't point the finger or blame, just talk about how you feel, and listen to him about how he feels.

That's the only way you're going to save this relationship.

Additional info, I love him but I don't get excited when he says I love you or sweet words anymore

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Originally Posted by undesirable1

Additional info, I love him but I don't get excited when he says I love you or sweet words anymore

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very positive advice from you. Thank you do much for the effort, it helps a lot.