Most of you are now familiar with my story. Tonight after a long night at the bar and getting pretty drunk, I text messaged my ex. Even though I was drunk I knew and remembered what I said. It was very simple. I texted," Thinking about you", to my ex. That's it! Those exact words. One of my friends saw me do this and he said, "you idiot, now she's got the power." She knows you are out at the bar and you are thinking of her." You need to make her wonder, wonder if you are flirting or going home with someone else." Ya know, I'm 28 years old and think the game is just plain stupid! I think you tell people how you feel. You never know what tomorrow will bring and you may regret never saying something you should have. So my question is, was this dumb of me to text her? This is what I was feeling, it's what I feel all day when I am completely sober. All I said was those three little words, nothing more. Should I not have?? Please let me know! Thank you!

Honestly, She is your ex for a reason.

Why are you thinking about her? Your friends might have not said it in a good way but they are certainly right.

You should have left it alone and leave it alone.

Time to stop missing somebody your not going to be with.

Joe

It's just going to hurt, my friend. Don't look at it as giving up power, if it makes you feel better...

Drunk,phone,text don't mix.

Let us know her response/lack of response...

Yes lets here the response if there is one. Other than that, delete her no so none of this drunken texts or emails etc happen again. Perhaps store the deatails somewhere so one day - perhaps friends, but until you have recovered let things be.

hey ace :) been there many times before.. your friend is right it does give her.. some sort of power.. because it is your x.. And you should be moving on.I know it's a lot easier said than done. But sometimes our feelings can get the best of us.. at any moment. Even if we are out and having fun a moment of weaknuss and that's all it takes.. when your with a good women. Then you don't have to even worrie about giving up power..

there are the typ of people out there that do play on that power of being loved or thought about. They think they can get away with anything if you feel like that..
but there are some that take it for what it should mean :)

hope it works out man

Yes, it was dumb of you to text her. And wearing your heart out on your sleeve is the worst thing you can do. It may seem the right thing to do and "the game" may seem stupid, but the idea is you've got to have a life outside of her, whether you're with her or not. You cannot be constantly clingy or needy. That will only serve to push women away. You've got to project an air of indifference, that you're perfectly fine with or without them. You've got to make them want you and make them feel that they have to chase you. They want a challenge and wearing your heart out on your sleeve takes that away from them.