I met a great guy when I moved in my new town. He was a breath of fresh air. We immediately connected and everything was great. Well he has 2 children who live 2 hours away. He has always struggled about being so far away. Well a year and 9 months went on with him just visiting home to see the kids twice a month. Then all of sudden its an urgency to get home. He got a job offer and took it. Well, the baby momma has made it clear that she's not giving up without a fight, even if it means keep breasfeeeding so you always have to go. Even though the baby is 3.She knows he's with me and that we are monogamous. She makes it about family, yanno the "kids". 2 weeks before he left I found out I was pregnant... wow! I don't know how I feel I just know I'm 34 and have never aborted. He claims he loves me and I do believe him but she threatens him so much about not seeing his kids, he seems scared to take this risk. Well, I'm having my baby and I wish he would understand that its not to spite him. He still has his home here, and visits often. I just wish I knew what to expect. Will he even get the nerve to mention that I'm expecting or should I? <thats out of spite

It is not up to you to say anything to his ex. Do you think he is hiding this fact that your pregnant. Yes, he will always have to be part of his kids lives, but now he has a child coming with you and I am so happy you decided to keep the baby. He needs to figure out for himself what is important. He needs to take responsibility for this child with you now. How often do you see him? How often does he visit the kids?

Breastfeeding and always having to go, that does not make any sense to me what so ever. Why does he always have to go? Maybe because she does not want to give him up? But I am sure you already thought about that.

Do not let him use excuses. What risk? He is having a baby with you. She can threaten all she wants but it is up to him if he is going to listen to it or not.

Joe

Stay out of the drama with his ex, and its not your place to talk of your pregnancy with her. You can expect more baby mama drama, as those two are tied together till the kids grow up, just as you two will be. GOOD LUCK! You'll need it.