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  • Sep 27, 2012, 12:00 PM
    Sallyprincess
    My boyfriend doesn't know whether to stay or break up
    We've been dating fr over 10 months now and we've had some issues because exboyfriends keep on looking for me and sending me stuff but I don't feel anything for any of them just for my boyfriend.
    Ive been trying to be a perfect girlfriend and trying to make him understan and know that he's the only one I want.
    He changed his profile and cover picture he had with me about a moth ago and even though I hadn't he still doesn't so anything about it.
    We are on a distance relationship he lives 5 hours from my city and I'm going every 2 weeks to see him but this time its going to be 3 weeks and its been hard on both of us.

    But today we skyped and he told me he didn't know whether to stay or leave me because of my past.
    Because I've kissed more people than he has and that he justcant let go of that he is also telling me that we are really different since I had kissed more people than he has.

    Please help me any advice will help I want him to stay and feelconfident about my love
  • Sep 27, 2012, 03:57 PM
    slapshot_oi
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Sallyprincess View Post
    But today we skyped and he told me he didnt know whether to stay or leave me because of my past. Because ive kissed more people than he has

    He's likely telling the truth here. But I don't think this is the real problem.
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Sallyprincess View Post
    We are on a distance relationship he lives 5 hours from my city and im going every 2 weeks to see him but this time its gonna be 3 weeks and its been hard on both of us.

    This is the real issue. If I was 5 hours away from my girlfriend and I knew her ex boyfriends were trying to get in touch with her, I would go bananas, too.

    Did you tell him that your ex-boyfriends are trying to get in touch with you? If so, why did you tell him?
  • Sep 27, 2012, 04:02 PM
    Sallyprincess
    I know like I get that he gets jealous but I told him because since we have a distance relationship we talk everyday and about every single thing. I just thought I had to do it, I don't like having secrets to him
  • Sep 27, 2012, 04:29 PM
    slapshot_oi
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Sallyprincess View Post
    I just thought i had to do it, i dont like having secrets to him

    Understandable. I used to feel the same way. The truth is, although he is your boyfriend, your past relationships are not his business. He's dating the version of Sallyprincess since December 2011, anything that happened before that is irrelevant. You have a right to privacy, even in a relationship. So, don't feel obligated tell him everything. There is truth to the adage "ignorance is bliss".

    All you can do is hope he gets over it and moves on.

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