First of all,I'm 13 yrs old and I'm a bi. But my friends and also my parents doesn't know 'cause I know they're going to think I'm lesbian.Anyways,my problem is that I had a major crush on my "straight girl" cousin since we were kids and it's been over 5 years since then!! FYI:she lives in Hawaii but she's a filipino like me. When they're on vacation here in Philippines,I have to be pretend I'm a straight girl and it was easy.'Cause we're really close and whenever we talk,we always had funny jokes.
Last June 2012,their vacation was on,2 days passed and we got so really close like the old times 'cause she noticed that I wasn't talking much from that time.And they were in our house in the evening ,while watching TV. In the living room,me,my cousin(crush),her sister,my sister and my other cousin was sitting there and talking 'bout anything. So on that time,she lay down her head with her thighs were at my legs,but I didn't mind it though. =( But if I tell her,I'm sure she would tell it to the whole family what and who I really am.



How can I tell her the truth without telling it to the whole family?
how can I say that I love her?


please answer it or just give me advice..

There is nothing wrong with figuring out your sexuality but if this is a blood "cousin" that's considered incest just so you know.

You are 13 with hormones out of control and sexually curious. That does not mean you're bi.
How can you be in love with your cousin after 2 days? You don't need to tell her anything. There is no reason to. Get yourself a journal and write down your thoughts if you must, but everything you feel does not need to be verbalized. Keep it to yourself. It will pass as you mature.

And if you are bi or lesbian ( and at 13 you should be nothing sexual) you don't do anything, You don't push your sexual preference on those that are not. If she is straight, she has no sexual desires for girls and knowing this and not giving her respect would be totally wrong

I was in love with her since we were kids you know.. & until now,we always have contacts to each other.(FYI: I was kind of shy to talk to her in person 'cause she's kindof busy on that time, when they were on vacation @June)

I was in love with her since we were kids you know.. & until now,we always have contacts to each other.(FYI: I was kind of shy to talk to her in person 'cause she's kindof busy on that time, when they were on vacation @June) also thanks for all the advice!!

It doesn't matter if you love her. She's your cousin. She's also not bi, she's straight. There are so many reasons for you to leave her alone, her being your cousin is the biggest one.

Incest is illegal. If you went after her, this would be incest. Also, you're too young to know what love is. Leave her alone. She's your cousin! She's off limits!