Me and my girlfriend have been together since 7th grade. We are seniors now and she's always busy with school work and dance competitions so we don't get to see each other much. She told me a couple days ago she doesn't feel anything between us anymore and she doesn't know why. I've surprised her with dinner at her house and I asked her to homecoming with flowers and a card in her locker. She was finally happy again! Until the end of the day she said she failed her government test and completely blocked me out again. She called me after school and said she needs a couple days to think about "us" and to leave her alone. But I don't understand what I did wrong. We have been dating all through middle and high school. I need other views of this because my feelings have never changed for her. I love her with all my heart and it crushes me to know she doesn't feel like that anymore. What should I do? I want her to love me again

She is probably hormonal and does still have feelings for you however they r hidden behind al the studying and learning this sometimes happens give her the time alone and hopefully she will work things outbut don't worry about it whatever happens will be the right thing although you might not think it.

No way to tell if this is a temporary thing, or a reaction to change and growing older, but at this time its about her, and what she wants and your trying to please her has nothing to do with it. Better give her space to figure it out than keep pushing out of fear of losing her.

Can't fix this my friend, she has to, so let her.

Do what she wants! - some days to be left alone. Respecting that will earn you respect back. It isn't about 'but I don't understand what I did wrong.' You don't get the luxury of finding out until she feels like telling you, and odds are she doesn't have an answer. We all change a lot in our teen years. You haven't even mentioned plans for next year, yours vs hers. Most young loves go their separate ways. I'm a little worried about a senior saying 'me and my girlfriend' so ungrammatically if she plans on college. Ouch, I know, I'm sorry, but what DO you think you will do next year?

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Originally Posted by joypulv

Do what she wants! - some days to be left alone. Respecting that will earn you respect back. It isn't about 'but I don't understand what I did wrong.' You don't get the luxury of finding out til she feels like telling you, and odds are she doesn't have an answer. We all change a lot in our teen years. You haven't even mentioned plans for next year, yours vs hers. Most young loves go their separate ways. I'm a little worried about a senior saying 'me and my girlfriend' so ungrammatically if she plans on college. Ouch, I know, I'm sorry, but what DO you think you will do next year?

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She's going to bowling green and I have a baseball scholarship to Toledo. Our colleges will be a 20 minute drive apart.

If she wants to explore her world and you want to spend time with her, guess who wins? Don't fight her decisions, respect them.