I am a single parent and I was in relationship with this guy from last 2 years. He promised me for marriage but last month he told me his parents are not agreeing for the same, and mom cry a lot. So for his mom he is breaking up, and going ahead in his life with other girl.

He also tried a lot in front of me as well to convince his mom but she is against this relation as he is a bachelor and different caste. Also he was so caring and loving so am not able to come out of him. Also, he keeps on calling me to know how I am, and take all my frustration, when required.

Is he doing wrong with me?? Should I continue friendship?? I am very stressed!!

I wouldn't say it's 'wrong' to give in to his mother's wishes; it's just unfair, like a lot of life. He fell in love with you and wanted to marry you, but when he told his mother about you he found out that he had to choose between you and her. I'm in the US where we seldom choose our parents over the person we love, but you are in a part of the world (India, perhaps?) where family is extremely important. He may not be able to afford to marry you if he is disowned by his entire extended family.

I would stop all contact with him. It sounds like an arranged marriage is being planned.

There can be no friendship as long as he will marry another and you should tell him to leave you alone so you can heal, and move on!

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Originally Posted by talaniman

There can be no friendship as long as he will marry another and you should tell him to leave you alone so you can heal, and move on!

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but am finding very difficult , and in case I try also, he keeps on calling and send santy sms... so I again start talking to him... and he keeps on telling me all he is doing in pressure and just to make mom happy as in life she never got any happiness, and this is true , our love is very pure , he still care for me mentally, still I should apart, you feel??

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Originally Posted by joypulv

I wouldn't say it's 'wrong' to give in to his mother's wishes; it's just unfair, like a lot of life. He fell in love with you and wanted to marry you, but when he told his mother about you he found out that he had to choose between you and her. I'm in the US where we seldom choose our parents over the person we love, but you are in a part of the world (India, perhaps?) where family is extremely important. He may not be able to afford to marry you if he is disowned by his entire extended family.

I would stop all contact with him. It sounds like an arranged marriage is being planned.

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True, arrange marriage is already planned and he agreed for the same, saying I don't love her, but am considering my mom decision, at the same time he is asking me to stay in his life as a friend at least so that he can care for me, but I feel its wrong for the one who is going to come to his life, as a women how can I do such bad thing, its unfair for her.

It's mostly unfair to YOU.
He wants it both ways, and is being selfish.
He really, really has to leave you alone if he cares for you at all.

I think I hv to think practically and move ahead alone... thanks a lot