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Girl problems, what do I do?

Okay let start with I really like this girl and we have been connecting since the first time we seen each other. We finally started hanging out going to bars playing pool enjoying each other's company, laughing, me making her feel good when she's down me being there for her. I make her happy, and smile all the time.

We hang out the other day have a few beers just enjoy each others company. I go to her house we make out, touchy feely things such as massages four head kissing cheek kissing boob massages. She tells me how sweet I am, she has a feeling growing for me. Had no sex, I respected her!!

Now the twist is her ex is in prison for 8 months. He's coming home the end of Sept. or beginning of Oct. When the nights over and the morning comes she tells me she can't start a relationship with me because she still loves her ex. She says she will not date him but I know when he comes home they are going to have sex non stop.

Please please what should I do??

Just tell her what you really think and if she's the perfect one for you she will understand if she doesn't then maybe your looking at her the wrong way but it sounds like you have a great connection so just follow your instinct and tell her your true feelings.

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QUOTE by Kat89007;
]Just tell her what you really think and if she's the perfect one for you she will understand if she doesn't then maybe your looking at her the wrong way but it sounds like you have a great connection so just follow your instinct and tell her your true feelings.

Thank you for your reply, she knows how I feel, sometimes I feel like she is using it to puppy me. I have never chased a female before in my life but I am with her... And we have a great great connection.. But everytine we stop hanging out for a day she tells me she has to date him and give him another chance. But also said does not want me or him. But I know they will have lots of sex.. It hurts me knowing that

Yes, you are someone to pass the time with, and if she is waiting for him, they will get back together then. So if you want sex with her, perhaps a little less respect and a little faster movement

Thanks!

How big is her boyfriend? Do you want to die young? Which head is doing the thinking?

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Originally Posted by momknowsbest

How big is her boyfriend ?? Do you want to die young ?? Which head is doing the thinking ??

I'm bigger and I can handle myself pretty well..

Your user name is Thinklogical, but are you?
She said she didn't want a relationship because she still loves her ex.
It sounds like you have been a distraction to help pass the time until her ex gets out of jail.

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Originally Posted by LadySam

Your user name is Thinklogical, but are you?
She said she didn't want a relationship because she still loves her ex.
It sounds like you have been a distraction to help pass the time until her ex gets out of jail.

Sounds about right!

You should tell her that if she is still waiting for him that mean she still want him even if she said she doesn't want you are him. It seem like to me that she want to hang on to you for a back up in case it doesn't work out with them when he get out .
And I know this would be hard to do but the old saying that I have always hear since. I was little if you love someone and you don't know if they feel the same way as you do set them free and if they love you they will come back to you .

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Originally Posted by LadySam

Your user name is Thinklogical, but are you?
She said she didn't want a relationship because she still loves her ex.
It sounds like you have been a distraction to help pass the time until her ex gets out of jail.

Out of greenies and so I will applaud - another great answer!

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Originally Posted by BS1960

You should tell her that if she is still waiting for him that mean she still want him even if she said she doesn't want you are him.

What? This doesn't make sense.

Kind of bogus to say she has to give the jailbird a chance but you see what the real deal is, she just wants some fun until he does get out, so either have fun, without getting in too deep you can't get out, or stop wasting your time hoping for more.

I don't think that she is intentionally using you but I do think that she is lonely. I think your best shot is to play it cool. Tell her that you understand that she loves the other guy and that you are OK with it. (even if it isn't true) In the mean time, treat her well, sleep with her if you can, show her a good time. Don't act jealous or needy. In fact, when she talks about the guy, tell her that you are in a similar situation in that some girl has been chasing you and that you have been avoiding her. But, when her ex gets out, you'll probably hook up with the other girl, so it's all good.

People always want what they can't have more than what they can have. She feels an obligation to him right now. She sees your love and clingy-ness as something keeping her from him. (it's like your parents telling you you can't see someone-it makes you want to be with them more). But, if she feels that your fine on your own, and that there might be some competition for you she will look at things differently. Tell her that you want her to be happy and that you certainly don't want her to be with you if that isn't where she wants to be.

As someone else said, let her go when the guy gets out. Walk away. I don't care if you have to go home and cry your eyes out, don't let her know that. Hold your head up high in front of her!

Because he has been gone so long she might have built him up in her head to be better than he really is. Once she realizes that, and if she is worried that she will lose you-there is a good chance that she will come back to you!