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What should I do?

I've been messing with this married man for about 3 months now and he has 1 child wit her and she has 3 of her own.. Ok I love him dearly I'm in love with and he says he's in love wit me as well he says he's nt happy in his marriage bt they were friends before they got married and he say that it should have just stayed at a friendship but things happen... ok now me and him we Neva intended on messing around wit one another but you can't help how you feel about a person for too long this is my first time every doing this and this is his first time ever cheating on her he say he want out of his marriage but he scared she will try and take everything including the kids I'm confused on what to do I don't want to him but I need some advice

Run, don't walk away... today you are the "other woman" someday their will be another "Other woman" and it won't be you.

Nothing good will come of this... find someone that's NOT married.

Can u tell me why run besides just being the other other woman

You need to write in regular English, not text speak. Also, he probably will never leave you, so leave before you spend your whole life waiting for him. She will find out sooner or later.

Not to mention he could just be telling you what you want to hear so that you will continue to stay with him. How do you know for a fact that he has never done this before? You don't.

He will not leave her for you. You are just a back burner girl.

You will end up wasting time and energy on him.

But... something tells me that you will disregard all that we have said to you and that you will continue to stay with him.

Its hard just to say leave him alone and she has a clue that we are messing around and he could just be telling me anything but I doubt it I kind of have a good sense when someone is lying to me but wit him it feel so different I actually feel happy I know it's wrong to do what I'm doing but I just don't know I think something good will come out of this I don't know I'm confused

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Originally Posted by raven easley

Its hard just to say leave him alone and she has a clue that we are messing around and he could just be telling me anything but I doubt it I kind of have a good sense when someone is lying to me but wit him it feel so different I actually feel happy I know it's wrong to do what im doin but I just don't know I think something good will come out of this I don't know im confused

He's a cheater. He will do the same to you. He is married and his wife will find out. Trust me, women have an intuition about things like this.

Exactly what they said... plus... people that leave their spouse to be with someone they cheat with... eventually cheat with someone else and leave that person the same way eventually.

In short... Today he cheats with you and leaves his wife... tomorrow he leaves you to cheat with someone else...

It's a pattern of behavior.

And that assuming he ever would leave his wife... why should he... he's having his cake and eating it right now.

Ok so what if this is his first time ever stepping out of his marriage and he really do want out then what

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Originally Posted by raven easley

Its hard just to say leave him alone and she has a clue that we are messing around and he could just be telling me anything but I doubt it I kind of have a good sense when someone is lying to me but wit him it feel so different I actually feel happy I know it's wrong to do what im doin but I just don't know I think something good will come out of this I don't know im confused

Let me put it to you like this... If he will cheat on his wife, what makes you think he won't cheat on you?

To be quite honest, I have NO sympathy nor empathy for you. You know what you two are doing is wrong, and yet you continue to act on this. He is married! If he is unhappy, then that is on HIM. Let him decide. You shouldn't want to have ANY part of this.

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Originally Posted by raven easley

Ok so what if this is his first time ever stepping out of his marriage and he really do want out then what

You're a silly girl!

You continue to defend his actions and argue with us!

This thread will soon run its course. If you wanted bs said to you, then you should have just asked your friends. Not us.

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Ok so what if this is his first time ever stepping out of his marriage and he really do want out then what

I'd say he has done a really good job at playing you so far... and that tells me he's got a lot of experience doing it. If it was his first time he would have been really awkward at it...

Enigma1999 first of all I have asked everyone I just wanted different opinions that was all but don't never get it twisted I deal with what I want to deal with and people only do what u allow them to do and everybody learn from their mistakes its called LIFE but you can have a great night and life to the other ladies thank you

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Enigma1999 first of all I have asked everyone I just wanted different opinions that was all but don't never get it twisted I deal with what I wanna deal with and people only do what u allow them to do and everybody learn from their mistakes its called LIFE but you can have a great night and life to the other ladies thank you

Perhaps you should focus more on learning how to use proper English, spelling, and grammar, and a little less time on married men.

As for "don't never get it twisted"... believe me, I'm not. You posted a thread where you have received advice. You are NOT going to utilize Anyone's advice. You will continue to tear his family apart, KNOWING there are kids involved. The mistakes you are making is NOT called "LIFE" it's called selfishness!

I don't think this thread should continue because OP seems very confrontational.