Hey everyone. Do I have a right to have my boyfriend stay the night having my brother as my roommate. Im 30 years old... wth.

I've been seeing this guy for a month now and he honestly treats me very well. He makes me happy and my brother knows this! Problem is he told me this morning that HE Didn't WANT HIM STAYING OVER AGAIN.

This irritated me to no other end because he has women over all the time!! And have to put up with his crap with them. Its not fair. Im a grown woman and I know he is only looking after me but Isn't my brother taking this a bit too far??

No, it isn't fair to you, given that he has women over!
Both of you should have a concrete set of rules about having people 'stay over.' How often per week, per month, per year, all day, all night, bathroom sharing rules, and so on. There's noises through the walls too. Everyone loves THAT when they are trying to sleep.

You don't say whose house or apartment it is, and if you are equal in paying for it and owning or renting it.

Get your own place. Maybe your brother knows something about this guy you don't.
At any rate you need to have a talk with your brother.
Do you share the rent?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Get your own place. Maybe your brother knows something about this guy you don't.
At any rate you need to have a talk with your brother.
Do you share the rent?

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My brother says he's fine with me seeing him but doesn't want him staying over... We split the rent right down the middle and Im the oldest. Its like I feel like Im the pet hamster of the house with him sometimes although Im a very responsible hardworking person.

Well, get a place of your own.
How often does he have someone stay over night?
Maybe he does not like the idea of some guy sleeping over bonking his sister. How old are the two of you?
Talk to him.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Well, get a place of your own.
How often does he have someone stay over night?
maybe he does not like the idea of some guy sleeping over bonking his sister. How old are the two of you?
Talk to him.

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Im 27. And he is 23. And he practically moved in one of his last girls, he just wouldn't admit it. But I want to say its still very frequent about four days a week he'll have someone over. But the thing is Im as grown as a woman can get!! What does he expect me to do stay alone until Im 90.

You are getting younger. Several hours ago you were 30.
The point is that you are old enough to stand your ground because you are on equal ground, in fact, it sounds like your boyfriend stays with you less than all his different gf's.
He has no right to complain just because brothers are generally protective of sisters.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

You are getting younger. Several hours ago you were 30.
The point is that you are old enough to stand your ground because you are on equal ground, in fact, it sounds like your bf stays with you less than all his different gf's.
He has no right to complain just because brothers are generally protective of sisters.

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Okay so I exaggerated a bit.. close enough. LOL.. Well I understand but the way he said it just got under my skin... you know. Him out of all people saying it too. And my boyfriend stayed over only for one night. I would invite him over more often but I know I have a freakin drill seargant living at my house.

Thing is I don't want to start a fight and feel tension at my place if not I would have had a rebuttle. But the more I think about it he's not going to have it his way all the time like he runs everything. Well a girl he is currently seeing works with me. I feel like telling her she can't come over just because Im trying to prove a point!

No point in bringing his girl friend into this, that would be childish.
Just tell your brother you live there and pay rent as well. That you have a right to overnight guest the same as he. Then do it. If he gets upset, he'll get over it.