Simple question. Is this relationship worth fighting for?
First a little background, this is a reunited relationship of 3 months after a failed relationship of 3 years. 8 months had lapsed since we'd been apart. It's the kind of relationship when things are good, they are very good. On the other hand, when they are bad, it's a storm. When we had restarted the relationship, we had an understanding that we would talk things through / work out our problems before they get out of hand. Also that we would be sure to communicate our feelings whenever there was something bothering us.
The first 2 months were wonderful. This past month, however, seems to be the one where things are going downhill. I had lived out of state during that 8 months for a job that I could not find in the area. The first month we spent together, was long distance and everything was great with lots of I miss you's and can't wait to see you's. The second month was surreal in seeing each other and moving back in together, we did the things we'd always enjoyed.
This month, I get a job offer that is 140 miles away, but it is the ideal golden job vs. the one that I have now which gives no valuable experience in my profession. She already has her ideal job. I figure, if we love each other as much as we do, maybe we could deal with me commuting half the week to this job and get room for rent there, then continuing to live with her the other half of the week. At least for a year or so until I get more experience to reapply to where I live now.
Now recently, because of this new job offer, it really stirred things up. She doesn't want the half week arrangement, and thinks that one day maybe I'll stop paying rent. I then asked if she trusts me, and to my shock she said "No, I don't trust anyone, not even myself." Things went awry from there, and I later asked. "Do you believe this relationship is worth fighting for?" She said, "I have no idea."
That is my dilemma.
