My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year now and before we used to have sex 4 or more times a week, we'd go at it all the time for hours but for the past 2 months we've done it MAYBE twice. Im always the one that asks for it, I actually don't remember a time where she ever did.

She just recently started her first year in university, but we still spend majority of our days together, I sleep with 5/7 times a week, whenever I try to get her going she instantly asks me to stop, her excuse usually is because "she's hairy down there" (she only gets it waxed so it can get quite beastly down there) but I always reassure her that it doesn't bother me but she still never wants too. This is making me incredibly frustrated, sexually frustrated that is.

Any ideas on how to change her mind and get some good times going on in the bed again?

The waxing is an excuse. She's either tired of sex, or can't handle 'going at it for hours' while she's exhausted from school, or she's gearing up for breaking up. If I were starting college, I wouldn't want sex that went on for more than 15 minutes, personally, and speaking as a woman.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

The waxing is an excuse. She's either tired of sex, or can't handle 'going at it for hours' while she's exhausted from school, or she's gearing up for breaking up. If I were starting college, I wouldn't want sex that went on for more than 15 minutes, personally, and speaking as a woman.

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I agree with you. My husband likes to have sex not that I mind but I do get frustrated because I'm tired and he wants to go for freakin ever. I'm also on anxiety meds which makes me have no desire to have sex. So like the first commenter said maybe she doesn't want to have sex for hours. Maybe a quick 15mins is enough for her.

Sex can and will get boring if you're doing it 4 times a week. That's probably where she's at now. Sex is not something that should be done for fun as an activity, if it is like that, then prepare for one person to become completely uninterested in it.

I'd start getting into the habit of not talking about it. Find a hobby, something you can do everyday to keep your mind off sex. Treat it like it's something you "shouldn't" be doing. You'll eventually turn sex into a 'taboo' again, something exciting and intimate instead of it being "just another thing I need to do today".

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Originally Posted by joypulv

The waxing is an excuse. She's either tired of sex, or can't handle 'going at it for hours' while she's exhausted from school, or she's gearing up for breaking up. If I were starting college, I wouldn't want sex that went on for more than 15 minutes, personally, and speaking as a woman.

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Yah but here's the thing though, once she has one orgasam she wants more and more until she say can't have anymore pretty much, I mean its not like I'm complaining about how long it lasts for but it's not like I'm forcing/asking for it to be long.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

The waxing is an excuse. She's either tired of sex, or can't handle 'going at it for hours' while she's exhausted from school, or she's gearing up for breaking up. If I were starting college, I wouldn't want sex that went on for more than 15 minutes, personally, and speaking as a woman.

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Meh I asked her 2 weeks ago if she wanted a break or something and she got pretty upset and said that she doesn't want that at all, so I don't know if that's the case.