My partner has gone off sex
Hi, would love as much advice as possible please.
Ive been with my partener for almost 10years. We have 3 children together. They are 8,6 and 9 months. My partner had a vasectomy 8weeks after our youngest was born.
The problem is that in the last 5 months my partner has gone completely off sex. We spend a lot of time arguing (not just about sex) and he has a very stressful and tiring job so I try to be understanding of this. I have tried lots of different things to get him interested but nothing seems to be working.
In the beginning of our relationship his sex drive was very high and I turned him down a lot and now he keeps saying that if its OK for me to turn him down it should be OK for him to do the same. Fair point I think, but I feel like he's punishing me.
He says that he doesn't even want to cuddle me because if he does then I'll expect sex! I don't think this is fair as I'm naturally a very affectionate person.
I feel very rejected by him and in some ways its making me feel very needy. I don't want to separate from him but don't feel that I can stay in a sexless relationship. I need that connection you get fom making love to someone.
My partner doesn't seem to have an issue with masturbating. I know he masturbates at least once a day which makes me come to the conclusion that its me he's not interested in rather than he's just gone off sex.
Any advice is much appreciated. Xxxx