I'm not really sure if I want to be with my boyfriend anymore. I'm 21 and have been with him for almost five years now. I just feel like he is more of a friend than a boyfriend, and I really don't feel attracted to him at all. I feel like that's a really shallow reason to be questioning our relationship because he is an extremely nice guy, and on paper everything I could ask for, but I just don't feel like I click with him. I'm really shy and so is he, and I think we are a little bit too shy for each other. I don't know what to do because I don't want to lose a great catch, but he was my first boyfriend and I don't really know if I'm missing anything and if it's supposed to be something more.

I feel like I should want to be around him all the time and enjoy hugging and kissing him, but for some reason I don't have that connection. I really try to and I cant. And him being my first boyfriend I'm not sure if that's just me and I'd be like that with anyone or if we just don't really click. I don't even enjoy kissing him, which I don't think is normal. For a 21 and 22 year old the most we have done was made out a few times, and every single time all I could think about is when can we stop.

I feel so bad I'm not attracted and try to be but I just don't feel anything and I never have. I feel like it's not really him I'm not attracted to, but possibly his personality. He is way too much like me, and I think that makes him feel like a brother. Is it possible someone can be too nice, I'm not saying I want someone to be mean to me but I don't want everything we do to try to please me and make me the decision maker.

I want a guy who can make decisions and really think I'm attracted to people who are more outgoing, because they bring out my more outgoing and playful side. When other people are more outgoing and playful I don't feel as awkward being that way. I think I need someone who brings out my more outgoing side and better qualities versus suppress them, even if that suppression isn't being done on pupose.

If you're not happy then leave. Plain and simple. It's unfair to you and extremely unfair to him if you stay.

There is no shame in wanting to experiment and explore other options. Just be honest about it with him. Feelings are subject to change all the time. Yours have.