I lost it about a year ago and if I have sex again will it still hurt as bad as the first cause that's a horrible feeling. And I heard the longer a girl doesn't have sex it gets "tighter" and will feel like your losing your virginity all over again is that true ?

Who says that? Not true.

How old are you?

No, that's not true at all. Once you lose your virginity, it's gone. Your vagina will change as you get older, but it won't get tighter. In fact, it will do the opposite, especially after you have children.

If you've only had sex once then it may still be uncomfortable this time, but it shouldn't be painful.

If you only had sex a couple times before, while not like the first time, yes it can still hurt some.

Also if there is no foreplay it can hurt a lot for any women.

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If you only had sex a couple times before, while not like the first time, yes it can still hurt some.

Also if there is no foreplay it can hurt a lot for any women.

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So true.

I'm definitely not a novice when it comes to sex, and I've had two kids. But, if I'm not ready, it won't be pleasant.

Thankfully my husband is a patient and wise man, and knows how to get me ready. That's part of the learning curve. :)

Wondergirl, my adult cousin told me that and every girl I know.

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wondergirl, my adult cousin told me that and every girl I know.

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You need to find someone with knowledge and authority to give you information. And visit your local public library to check out books on the subject. Ask a librarian for help in finding good ones appropriate for your age. Please don't go through life listening to clueless people filling your head with misinformation. Your library is the best source of facts.

How old are you?

I'm 17. And thank you I'll try to find time.

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wondergirl, my adult cousin told me that and every girl I know.

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"Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see."

That must be a tactic to try and scare you out of having sex again because you're too young. I can't see an adult making such a childish and silly remark.

It can be a little uncomfortable but it should not hurt like the first time.

It will depend upon your readiness my girlfriend when she lost her virginity to me bled for more than 5 times before we really go to enjoy sex

True,. very true. C0bra M3nace

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true,... very true. C0bra M3nace

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They're right though, if that's the case, that you're too young to be having sex. Are you ready for all possible outcomes that accompany sexual intercourse? Are you ready to bear a child? Can you afford one? Do you have a good job you can fall back on?

Every time penetration is involved, it doesn't matter if you're using both birth control and a condom, you risk pregnancy. Are you positive you're ready for all the responsibilities that may follow?

Not trying to lecture you, I'm just giving you some food for thought. You're life can change dramatically, all it takes is a little + sign on the pregnancy test.

no I'm not ready for that stuff I'm just a senior in high school, but it does curious me though. I don't know how childish that sounds, but it does... and I just want to thank you all for the advice it's helpful. =D

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no i'm not ready for that stuff i'm just a senior in high school, but it does curious me though. idk how childish that sounds, but it does... and I just want to thank you all for the advice it's helpful. =D

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I'd just hate to see another senior go and get pregnant and ruin their future. I've seen far too many do it.

I wish you the best no matter what you choose to do.

Thank you. I talked to my boyfriend and we decided to wait till later on in the relationship.