Ask Me Help Desk - I want to terminate my parental rights

I need to know how to terminate my parental rights to my kids who hate me and refuse to visit .

You can't emancipate yourself from role as a parent however your children can from your either through their own emancipation ( extreme cases of abuse etc.. ) or if they were to be adopted

Terminating parental rights doesn't terminate parental responsibilities.

In other words: Regardless of how often you see your kids that may or may not hate you (there's a huge "WHY?" running through my head there)---you're still going to be paying child support.

Why bother going to court, just don't make them visit, don't go see them, and you don't have to use any right you have.

I can see no reason spending the time and the money to stop things you don't have to do anyway.

Of course child support is not part of your parent right, it is part of your parent obligations and you can't merely sign them away. Without the other persons permission and normally someone else like a step parent to adopt.

I get so sick and tired of people thinking you want to avoid paying child support just because you want to relinquish your rights of the said child. The ignorance of most child support services are usually typical.
They (child support services) don't recognize or realize they're certain circumstances in which a parent would request a waive of their rights concerning a child. In my case, my daughter has been an average 'D' student since the 6th grade. It esculated from there on. By the time she was in the 10th grade... she was an average 'F' student and went to summer school.. only to receive zero credit for going!. The worst part is that she could literally see the school from where her and her mother lived. A ten minute walk straight down the street. When I talked to her counselors at school, they would say that she was always late! Her mother wasn't working. She was receiving county assistance from the state and was always gone off to Bingo or the Casino. I lived too far and worked during the hours of her schooling so I couldn't make sure she was going to school. Well, it goes on and on with the mother not caring about her grades and me not having a say in the matter because if I did say something that was constructive... they would cut off communication from me and consider me the Bad Guy for caring. My daughter was always sheltered and protected by her mother. It was never my daughter's fault for anything. Her mother would blame the school and anyone else who'd dare go against her daughter. I've had them disrespect me and gang up on me for at least 8 years now and I've had it!!
So I'm not trying to avoid child support by waiving my rights.. I'm waiving my rights because my daughter disrespects me,mother disrespects me, has failing grades in school and I feel I'm helpless to intervene in her life. So I've decided after all of this time... I'm tired and I want OUT! Period.

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Originally Posted by coolbreezio

I get so sick and tired of people thinking you want to avoid paying child support just because you want to relinquish your rights of the said child. The ignorance of most child support services are usually typical.
They (child support services) don't recognize or realize they're certain circumstances in which a parent would request a waive of their rights concerning a child. In my case, my daughter has been an average 'D' student since the 6th grade. It esculated from there on. By the time she was in the 10th grade...she was an average 'F' student and went to summer school..only to receive zero credit for going!... The worst part is that she could literally see the school from where her and her mother lived. A ten minute walk straight down the street. When I talked to her counselors at school, they would say that she was always late! Her mother wasn't working. She was receiving county assistance from the state and was always gone off to Bingo or the Casino. I lived too far and worked during the hours of her schooling so I couldn't make sure she was going to school. Well, it goes on and on with the mother not caring about her grades and me not having a say in the matter because if I did say something that was constructive...they would cut off communication from me and consider me the Bad Guy for caring. My daughter was always sheltered and protected by her mother. It was never my daughter's fault for anything. Her mother would blame the school and anyone else who'd dare go against her daughter. I've had them disrespect me and gang up on me for at least 8 years now and I've had it!!!!
So I'm not trying to avoid child support by waiving my rights..I'm waiving my rights because my daughter disrespects me,mother disrespects me, has failing grades in school and I feel I'm helpless to intervene in her life. So I've decided after all of this time...I'm tired and I want OUT! Period.

So... you want to waive your rights and STILL PAY CHILD SUPPORT?

I could get behind that. I don't see how it's in your child's best interest, but you might be able to convince me to allow it.

But... As a taxpayer, I REFUSE to have to pay for someone else's deadbeat kid. You could have gone back to court and gotten custody if you felt you could parent better than her mother. You could have gotten CPS involved if you felt she wasn't being nurtured in her home.

Seriously... if you don't want to USE your rights to visit and make decisions in your child's life, then fine---I don't give a good fart whether you do. But you can't just pass off your kid like a puppy for someone else to care for, and you certainly can't waive your financial obligations simply because you don't like the way your ex parents.

And frankly, those people that want to write off their kids because their kids aren't what they wanted their kids to be like... that just disgusts me. Congratulations! You don't love your child because she's in trouble and not an A student--how does that make YOU feel? Or if you protest that you DO love your child--what parent doesn't keep trying because it is the best thing for their child, no matter how frustrating it is?

So yes---I DO consider you a deadbeat parent for wanting to waive your rights to get out of parenting in a difficult situation. And whether you waive your rights, you STILL have to pay child support. Sorry if you don't like that, but why should *I* pay for your kid?

If you don't like your situation, go to court and change it. Don't whine that you want to waive your rights because your kid isn't what you wanted her to be.

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Originally Posted by coolbreezio

...I'm tired and I want OUT! Period.

Synnen put it very elequently. No need to repeat that.

If you want out, consider yourself out.

Simple, wasn't it?