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  • Mar 8, 2007, 02:27 PM
    lromero
    3 year old hasn't learned to talk
    I have a 3 year old son that has not even began to talk. He knows the usual words,like [mamma daddy juice ]. The doctor isn't saying it's his hearing. i'm at a lost. He's my first child. How can i get him to talk? I read to him i try to get him to pronounce words nothing.:confused:
  • Mar 8, 2007, 02:33 PM
    Teaching
    He just may be delayed in his speech. Try reading books and enroling him into play groups - this will help his speech. Social interactions with other children really help children verbalize. Also, play tapes at night when your child is a sleep.
  • Mar 8, 2007, 05:41 PM
    lromero
    What types of tapes and where can I get them?
  • Mar 8, 2007, 05:46 PM
    Teaching
    Library has great tapes that you can borrow. I was thinking like songs, nighttime music... not instrumental, something with words. This way it is pleasant and may help.
  • Mar 8, 2007, 05:51 PM
    lromero
    Thanks I'll Try That.
  • Mar 8, 2007, 05:56 PM
    Teaching
    I would also see a speech therapist or health nurse, get some ideas from other professionals. Working in daycare I have seen children who are three and not speaking, however "social interactions with other children really helps them to vocalize". Good luck.
  • Mar 8, 2007, 07:16 PM
    Jessica85
    I have had difficulties understanding my 3 year old boy. He talks his own language which makes things really hard. He can say some sentences but a lot of the time the words he says just don't make sense. I was told from someone that it was caused from when he started talking with a dummy in his mouth. I took him to speech therapy and they told me that there was no serious problem and that he will speak when he's ready but with a little encouragement on the way...
    My advise is when your son asks for something like when he says juice encourage him to say juice please, for e.g..
    But I do agree that taking him to play group or somewhere where there are other children he may pick it up from others.
    Hope this helps...
  • Mar 8, 2007, 07:28 PM
    nrse4lyfe
    Have you had him tested for Autism? Don't get me wrong, there maybe several reasons your son has not started talking. However one of the signs of autism is delayed speech. Studies have shown that children with Autism develop normally until about age 2. After that age that is when parents tend to notice that the child is not on the normal development track as other children in their age group. Again, I am not saying this to be negative but you might want to have him checked out. I have 2 friends who's children are autistic and they began to notice the delayed development around age 2 & 3. Good luck to you.
  • Mar 9, 2007, 09:03 PM
    airbats-goku
    Have other people in your family had similar problems? My cousins from my Aunt's side have a situation where the boys don't really talk until they get into school (interaction) or they have difficulty forming the words when they do try to talk.

    Get him some talking toys too. Teddy Ruxpin (if you remember him, lol) really helped my cousin, Derrick. Ummm... what else? Get him on the phone to family members. He has to communicate by speech, especially his favorite ones. When he says "juice", try having him say a sentence "May I have some juice, please?" or even try getting him to say Juice please. Every little bit helps. nrse4lyfe has a good point about the autism though. It never hurts to check.
  • Mar 12, 2007, 11:17 AM
    lromero
    My Doctor Has Yet To Recommend A Hearing Test Or Anything. I Don't Know If Him Going To His Grandma's House And Them Only Speaking Spanish And My House English. I Feel Like It's My Fault
  • Mar 12, 2007, 01:12 PM
    Teaching
    It's wonderful for a child to have two languages. It's not your fault at all, however I think this helps me understand more. Children are very adaptable, I have seen children talk spanish and english in daycare. It will come - give it time. Also, I still strongly recommend a play group, children vocalize more through social peer pressure. Good luck
  • Mar 12, 2007, 01:18 PM
    Squiffy
    Ask for a hearing test. My son is four and had delayed speech. Well not as much delayed as just rubbish! He would use garbled language to ask for things. I understood him but no one else. He started pre school and that helped a little, well quite a lot, but his speech is still pretty poor if you don't know him. He has a hearing impairment. Even his audiologist needed me to translate for him. I would ask for a hearing test, if only to rule this out.
  • Mar 17, 2007, 07:38 AM
    lromero
    I have entered him into a day school. I myself it taking me a while to adjust. He is only going for 2 days a week I hope that is enough. Thanks for all the advice.
  • Mar 17, 2007, 11:22 AM
    Teaching
    That is awesome news - keep us posted how he does. Change is harder for parents than it is for child. I see it all the time. Don't worry, he will be in capable hands.
  • Mar 18, 2007, 02:38 PM
    lromero
    Thanks for the advice once again. I will keep you posted.
  • Mar 18, 2007, 06:32 PM
    vlee
    The fact that more than one language is spoken around him should not delay his speech at all. In fact, this is the best time to introduce your child to more than one language. It is even recommended that if each parent speaks a different language fluently that one always speaks in one tongue, and the other parent should always speak in the second language. (Same as you do English in your home, and Spanish at the grand-parents home.) The only reason for the separation of the two is so the child won't become confused as to which words belong to what language. If you are worried, talk to your child's doctor, express your concern, ask what tests can be run, and if you feel he's been too quick to judge properly, or is dismissive of your concern, seek another professional opinion.
  • Mar 20, 2007, 10:44 PM
    BarrelRacinGrl
    Try taking on ASL (American Sign Language) and teach him American Sign Language, that way he would still have the experience in language and as you teach him sign language, encourage him to speak, that way your understanding of each other would increase effectively.

    Myself have used ASL while growing up and quite honestly, without it, life would have been hard! It really helps. It has a lot of benefits. Such as if you both are in a noisy place, you guys just simply sign to each other and problem solved instead of straining to hear each other.

    Just thought I'd drop that idea in. :)
  • Apr 17, 2007, 10:07 AM
    lromero
    Well I enrolled my child in a daycare which only lasted 2 weeks. He screamed and cried and would not even walk in the class. I took him out, now he won't even go to a place that looks like school. Don't know what to do.
  • Apr 17, 2007, 10:31 AM
    BarrelRacinGrl
    My cousin did the same thing, and it got worse when his parents took him out and then tried again to bring him back. This time they brought him to a different daycare and kept at it, he wasn't happy with that at all but eventually he got used to the idea and used to the place. They brought him in when there wasn't any kids around at first and just spent some time there then eventually brought him when there were kids. I also recall them bringing him to playground parks with other kids from the daycare and he eventually grew familiar with them and adjusted more easily. My aunt also once told me, "Sometimes the kid just has to learn that not everything will be done in his way, its hard but it's for their own good down the road."

    Maybe this might help you? Hope it does.

    Good luck!
  • Apr 17, 2007, 02:29 PM
    godeshera
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by lromero
    I HAVE A 3 YEAR OLD SON THAT HAS NOT EVEN BEGAN TO TALK. HE KNOWS THE USUAL WORDS,LIKE [MAMMA DADDY JUICE ]. THE DOCTOR ISN'T SAYING IT'S HIS HEARING. I'M AT A LOST. HE'S MY FIRST CHILD. HOW CAN I GET HIM TO TALK? I READ TO HIM I TRY TO GET HIM TO PRONOUNCE WORDS NOTHING.:confused:

    My 3 year old did the same thing. It is not a hearing a problem it is a spoiling problem. He points and you get it for him. You know exactly what he wants and you never ask him to tell you what he wants.
    I sent my son to a Christian school at the age of 4 and within 3 months he was talking telling us the numbers and letters he was taught. They said he was too smart for his age and very quiet and attentive. He is now 19 years old and a great kid a little lazy around the house ( the spoiling thing) but knows how to work, save money and he has spoken up to go after what he wants.

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