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  • Sep 10, 2012, 05:46 PM
    maddiecake
    I cant date but I have a boyfriend, what should I do?
    My mom doesn't let me date but I have a boyfriend and I don't know what I should do because my friends black mail me that there going to tell my mom and he keeps on calling me and I get this feeling that she can hear me and I want to tell her but I don't know what she would do because I love him.please help ASAP!
  • Sep 10, 2012, 05:47 PM
    teacherjenn4
    Aren't you 10, if I remember? How old is he?
  • Sep 10, 2012, 06:35 PM
    Homegirl 50
    You tell her the truth. If she finds out you have been going behind her back, she will not be able to trust you.
    Are you 10? What is dating to a 10 year old?
  • Sep 10, 2012, 09:33 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Agree, what do you define as dating? Since as a adult or even older teens, it is going out to places together as a couple.

    At 10 of course you don't date.

    Are you 10 ? How old is the other person?
  • Sep 11, 2012, 12:22 PM
    maddiecake
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    Agree, what do you define as dating? Since as a adult or even older teens, it is going out to places together as a couple.

    At 10 of course you don't date.

    Are you 10 ? how old is the other person?

    He is ten 2
  • Sep 11, 2012, 12:27 PM
    Homegirl 50
    What do you call dating? At 10 where do you go, what do you do?
    At any rate, if you are doing something your parents have told you not to do, you need to stop.
  • Sep 11, 2012, 05:31 PM
    teacherjenn4
    Both of you are too young to date and should be focusing your attention on getting good grades in school.
  • Sep 12, 2012, 08:09 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by maddiecake View Post
    he is ten 2

    Spend less time worrying about your boyfriend and deceiving your mother and more time on homework.

    "He is ten 2"?
  • Sep 12, 2012, 05:28 PM
    maddiecake
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by teacherjenn4 View Post
    Both of you are too young to date and should be focusing your attention on getting good grades in school.

    Ummm... we both get great grades I've never gotten anything below a c.
  • Sep 12, 2012, 05:33 PM
    Alty
    You're 10? Go play with your barbies and leave the boys alone. This makes me want to puke.

    I have a 10 year old. She's not ready to date any more than you are!

    What is it with kids today? Is it because of TV shows, movies? Is it the hormones in foods?

    You're a child! Be a child! Stop trying to be an adult! Tell your mom that you're in over your head, that you're dating, and your so called friends are blackmailing you so that she doesn't find out.

    Oi!

    When mom finds out she'll put an end to this idiocy, and that idiocy includes a ten year old dating! You get new friends, because those you have aren't friends at all. You concentrate on your school work, and you worry about dating when you're 16, or older!

    Geesh!

    I'm going to go hug my daughter now, because thankfully she's a 10 year old with some sense!
  • Sep 12, 2012, 05:35 PM
    teacherjenn4
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by maddiecake View Post
    ummm... we both get great grades ive never gotten anything below a c.

    I would think if you paid more attention in class, you could raise those grades to A's and B's. Are you in 5th grade?
  • Sep 12, 2012, 05:37 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by teacherjenn4 View Post
    I would think if you paid more attention in class, you could raise those grades to A's and B's. Are you in 5th grade?


    Never got below a C? So you're an average student?
  • Sep 12, 2012, 05:37 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by maddiecake View Post
    my mom doesnt let me date but i have a boyfriend and i dont know what i should do because my friends black mail me that there gonna tell my mom and he keeps on calling me and i get this feeling that she can hear me and i want to tell her but i dont know what she would do because i love him.please help ASAP!


    I have a question - when 10 year olds date, what do they do, where do they go?
  • Sep 12, 2012, 05:43 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    I have a question - when 10 year olds date, what do they do, where do they go?

    They play with stuffed animals in the school yard, push each other on the swing, trade an apple for an orange at lunch, and call each other to say "Wizards of Waverly Place" is on TV, are you watching?

    I can't even imagine. My 14 year old doesn't date! My 10 year old still thinks boys are great friends, but anything more is icky. She constantly tells me that she wants kids, but won't get married because kissing is gross, and so are boyfriends. I know that will change, but it shouldn't change at 10!

    Right now my 10 year olds main goal is becoming a vet. That's what she wants, and has wanted for more than half her life. That may change too, but she's smart, focused, and has a goal. Boys aren't one of her goals. They're fine, and she'll likely find them more of a goal when she's a teen, but right now, it's school, studying, and friends. All is as it should be when you're 10.

    After reading this, I'm eternally thankful that no matter how messed up I am, I apparently did something right when I raised my kids. Something very right!

    Now I have to get back to hugging my kids. My 14 year old son is wondering why I'm smothering him with hugs. I'll explain it to him later. :)
  • Sep 12, 2012, 05:50 PM
    teacherjenn4
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    They play with stuffed animals in the school yard, push each other on the swing, trade an apple for an orange at lunch, and call each other to say "Wizards of Waverly Place" is on TV, are you watching?

    I can't even imagine. My 14 year old doesn't date! My 10 year old still thinks boys are great friends, but anything more is icky. She constantly tells me that she wants kids, but won't get married because kissing is gross, and so are boyfriends. I know that will change, but it shouldn't change at 10!

    Right now my 10 year olds main goal is becoming a vet. That's what she wants, and has wanted for more than half her life. That may change too, but she's smart, focused, and has a goal. Boys aren't one of her goals. They're fine, and she'll likely find them more of a goal when she's a teen, but right now, it's school, studying, and friends. All is as it should be when you're 10.

    After reading this, I'm eternally thankful that no matter how messed up I am, I apparently did something right when I raised my kids. Something very right!

    Now I have to get back to hugging my kids. My 14 year old son is wondering why I'm smothering him with hugs. I'll explain it to him later. :)

    I am totally agreeing with both of you. This little girl is the age I teach. I know exactly what happens. She won't pay attention in class. Her homework will be of poor quality and she'll be on the computer and texting instead of studying. The C's will become D's all because of a stupid idea that she wants to date! I could scream! Well, I just did and I hope her mom heard me. Mom of this little girl, why is she on the Internet speaking with strangers instead of you?
  • Sep 12, 2012, 05:58 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by teacherjenn4 View Post
    I am totally agreeing with both of you. This little girl is the age I teach. I know exactly what happens. She won't pay attention in class. Her homework will be of poor quality and she'll be on the computer and texting instead of studying. The C's will become D's all because of a stupid idea that she wants to date! I could scream! Well, I just did and I hope her mom heard me. Mom of this little girl, why is she on the Internet speaking with strangers instead of you?

    I'm screaming too.

    I have a ten year old. She's not allowed on the computer unless I'm okay it. She doesn't have a cell phone even though most of her classmates (over 90%) do. She's not allowed to play outside until her homework is done and checked, and she has two parents that care about her.

    This makes me want to reach through the computer and strangle someone. Not the poster. She's 10. She's a kid. But where the heck is the mother, the father, and what about the teacher? Let's face it, this is only going on in school, because she can't go on a date, she can only have a boyfriend during recess at school. This has to be stopped!

    Why are kids in such a hurry to be adults, to date, to have sex, to have babies? Geeze!

    You have around 16 years of your life to be a kid, 18 if you're lucky! The rest of your life is spent being an adult, being responsible, working, providing, caring for kids, and being what you need to be, doing what you need to do. The only time you have any freedom is when you're a kid. Why are you throwing that away by playing adult games?

    Be a kid when you're a kid! Stop trying to grow up so fast. Trust me, being a grown up isn't that much fun. Being a kid? I'd do that again in a heartbeat. Don't blow it! Be a kid!
  • Sep 12, 2012, 07:04 PM
    teacherjenn4
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    I'm screaming too.

    I have a ten year old. She's not allowed on the computer unless I'm okay it. She doesn't have a cell phone even though most of her classmates (over 90%) do. She's not allowed to play outside until her homework is done and checked, and she has two parents that care about her.

    This makes me want to reach through the computer and strangle someone. Not the poster. She's 10. She's a kid. But where the heck is the mother, the father, and what about the teacher? Let's face it, this is only going on in school, because she can't go on a date, she can only have a boyfriend during recess at school. This has to be stopped!

    Why are kids in such a hurry to be adults, to date, to have sex, to have babies? Geeze!

    You have around 16 years of your life to be a kid, 18 if you're lucky! The rest of your life is spent being an adult, being responsible, working, providing, caring for kids, and being what you need to be, doing what you need to do. The only time you have any freedom is when you're a kid. Why are you throwing that away by playing adult games?

    Be a kid when you're a kid! Stop trying to grow up so fast. Trust me, being a grown up isn't that much fun. Being a kid? I'd do that again in a heartbeat. Don't blow it! Be a kid!

    And yes, where is the teacher in all of this? We know our own students. We hear gossip. Hopefully, the teacher will intervene soon.
  • Sep 19, 2012, 05:20 PM
    maddiecake
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by teacherjenn4 View Post
    I would think if you paid more attention in class, you could raise those grades to A's and B's. Are you in 5th grade?

    Actually I get a's and b's and nothing on a test below a c
  • Sep 19, 2012, 05:21 PM
    maddiecake
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    Never got below a C? So you're an average student?

    Yup and I forgot to say, I am in 5th grade sorry
  • Sep 19, 2012, 05:23 PM
    maddiecake
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    I have a question - when 10 year olds date, what do they do, where do they go?

    We have been to the movies and we hug and hold hands but don't kiss bty

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