What should I do when it comes to miscommunication about porn?
This is probably a frequently asked question, what should I do if porn usage by my partner is really bothering me?
It's not so much that he watches it, more so that it's usually heaps of the same porn star, our sex life wavers even though I'm very willing to do and try new things, I've even tried asking to watch porn with him, we tried it once but he wouldn't do it with his porn, we had to go onto websites, it's like his is sacred or something.
Also, when I've asked him not to stop but just to stop downloading so much of one girl he doesn't.
I don't know this because I snoop, I know this because the idiot hides his porn inside other movie folders, so I'll go to watch inception and gianna michaels big titties starts playing.
It's also effected my porn watching habits, I used to watch it every now and then, and now just the thought disgusts me. My partner has made me resent it as I feel he chooses porn over me consistently.
We don't have a perfect relationship, it's been very rocky, he's actually been unfaithful,which is why it worries me that he doesn't want to talk about my problem with this(or many other issues for that matter) but lately he's really been making the effort to be good to me, and I've been so happy, but the porn issue has come up again, again with not communicating, and even before I confronted him about pron recently he's been very different and acting a little strange. Not sure if the two are related but I would like an outside view on the matter as I am sick of feeling inferior to what are essentially dolled up whores.
Especially as I am 5'7", have been told I am extremely attractive, used to be a model, and I am a great girlfriend. I am always supportive no matter what he wants to do, including pursuing a music career, I do everything a good girlfriend should and we are even considering children and buying a house together soon.
So I don't really understand how this is such a big issue for him to discuss with me. It constantly feels like if I have an opinion on something that differs to his, there's rarely ever a discussion, I'm wrong and just over reacting and he's right, and if I don't like it I can leave. I'm not to sure what to do and I would like an outsiders opinion on the matter.
Any opinion would be much appreciated.