Okay , I Need Advice , I Liked This Guy ,I Am Just Going to Call Him C , And We Both Are In 4th Period Band Together , And Both Go To The Skating Ring Mostly Every Friday, The Skating Ring Is For 6th And 7th Graders Go To Hang Out With Friends And Boyfriend And Girlfriend Without Their Parents From 8-11 , Anyway He Got Asked Out By This Girl I Know , He Said Yes And They Started Dating , I I Heard They Have 0 Classes Together , Well I REALLY Like C And Friday We Were Talking For The First Time , Liked We Talked But We Hade 4 Word Covo's Mostly, Well Anyway When We Talked We Looked Into Each Others Eyes And When We Talked I Felt Butterflies , Is That Weird ? Or Does That Mean I Just Like Him? Like The Only Way I Ever Felt Butterflies Is Because I Was Riding The Rockit A Huge Roller Coaster In Universal Studies . I Never Felt This With A Guy At All , And I Can't Ask A Friend Is Because I Am The Advice Giver But I Don't Accept My Own (x (Please No Dumb Answer Like Your To Young !) Please!

You got butterflies because you like him. But remember that he already has a girlfriend so he is off limits to you.

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You got butterflies because you like him. But remember that he already has a girlfriend so he is off limits to you.

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But Like They Barely See Each Other! But Your Right I Just Might Get Caught Up Because He Is Exactly Like I Picture A Guy I Want , Light Brown Hair, Beautiful Hazel Eyes, Nice Style, Really Funny , Likes To Do Stupid Stuff Sometimes , And Kind of Ghetto ^_^ , Sorry Got to Little Caught Up, But Anyway I Just Don't See The Point That They Go Out But See Each Other Only At The Skating Ring, But I Have Him In My 4th Period EVERYDAY Including Lunch And On Late Friday !

Welcome to more grown up, boyfriend and girlfriends may not even see each other but a couple times a week, or may go a month without seeing each other. It is not about being together all the time.

But that is the point, they see each other at the ring.

Thus the issue with 6th grade dating, not mature to understand dating.

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But Like They Barely See Each Other !, But Your Right I Just Might Get Caught Up Because He Is Exactly Like I Picture A Guy I Want , Light Brown Hair, Beautiful Hazel Eyes, Nice Style, Really Funny , Likes To Do Stupid Stuff Sometimes , And Kinda Ghetto ^_^ , Sorry Gotta Little Caught Up, But Anyway I Just Don't See The Point That They Go Out But See Each Other Only At The Skating Ring, But I Have Him In My 4th Period EVERYDAY Including Lunch And On Late Friday !

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This is hard to read. Could you please type it normally without every word being capitalized?

From another thread you responded to:

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Okay , I Am 11 And At School Its Different From What You Think , People Cuss , Talk About Things You Didn't Even Knew We Knew ,Guys Are Already Player The Freaking Date A Lot Of Girls Like Make Out With Them, And Also Were I Live We GO To The Skating Ring ,WITHOUT PARENTS, Before You Ask That , Till 8-11 And People , Make Out , Hold Hands, Flirting Every Were, WE Dance To "Grinding" Music ! We Act More Mature Then You Think !This All Happens Between 8-11 , I Got To A 6th Grade Only School , It Is Like A Mini High School!!!

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You are 11 years old and are at the beginning of learning what maturity really means. Acting mature is more than cursing and dancing to 'grinding' music. It is understanding that we can't always have what we want. It is knowing that people in relationships are off-limits.

There are reasons you don't try to steal a boy from another female. 1. If he will cheat on her, he will cheat on you. 2. If he leaves her for you, he will leave you for the next best thing. 3. You can't hold on to someone who is constantly looking for something new. 4. You cannot do everything to make someone happy in a relationship. (Yes, I know the argument that I will make him happy and he won't want to leave me. It doesn't work that way.)

I have a big question about where your parents/guardians are in all this. Do they allow you to date? Are you breaking their rules?

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You are 11 years old and are at the beginning of learning what maturity really means. Acting mature is more than cursing and dancing to 'grinding' music. It is understanding that we can't always have what we want. It is knowing that people in relationships are off-limits.

There are reasons you don't try to steal a boy from another female. 1. If he will cheat on her, he will cheat on you. 2. If he leaves her for you, he will leave you for the next best thing. 3. You can't hold on to someone who is constantly looking for something new. 4. You cannot do everything to make someone happy in a relationship. (Yes, I know the argument that I will make him happy and he won't want to leave me. It doesn't work that way.)

I have a big question about where your parents/guardians are in all this. Do they allow you to date? Are you breaking their rules?

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First , I met him and liked him before she had him ? At the skating ring last Friday she asked him the whole time , intill I guess he felt bad and said yes ! The whole time he was looking at me and he watched me if I laughed if he was doing something stupid !^_^

And second about the parents , I barely see my parents , we don't really talk but we live in the same house , my dad works during the day and dj mostly every Thursday to Saturday and sleeps all day if home the other days , and my mom goes to school after work , and I don't like her !-.-
My parents are 34 and 33, Very Young ^_^

1) It doesn't matterwhen she asked, she asked him before you did and he agreed. Therefore, ANY activity with him that undermines their relationship is wrong.

2) Yes its true that children are trying to grow up faster they in previous eras. That doesn't meen this is a good thing. Its not and is causing all sorts of problems. Even though you are trying to emulate adult behavior, you still don't have the emotional maturity to do so. This is totally evident in your posts. Its all about what YOU want, not about being respectful of others.

3) You didn't answer the question, what do your parents think about all this? Have you even askedthem? And why don't you like your mother, is it because she won't let you do what you want?

You can paint this any way you want, but he is "seeing" someone else. It doesn't matter how often you see him. It doesn't matter how little he sees her. They are together. Period.

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1) It doesn't matterwhen she asked, she asked him before you did and he agreed. Therefore, ANY activity with him that undermines their relationship is wrong.

2) Yes its true that children are trying to grow up faster they in previous eras. That doesn't meen this is a good thing. Its not and is causing all sorts of problems. Even though you are trying to emulate adult behavior, you still don't have the emotional maturity to do so. This is totally evident in your posts. its all about what YOU want, not about being respectful of others.

3) You didn't answer the question, what do your parents think about all this? Have you even askedthem? And why don't you like your mother, is it because she won't let you do what you want?

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The reason why I don't like my mom is because she doesn't get me and I'm not a little little kid I don't care if I don't get what I want I know that , wouldn't you hate your mother if she calls you stupid ! And No I am a daddy's girl also!! And I get it , a part of me really wants him then the other part says exactly what y'all are saying , HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND GET OVER HIM , There is a other guy trying to get my attention why don't you pay him any attention to him instead of liking a guy who already has a girlfriend

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The reason why I don't like my mom is because she doesn't get me and I'm not a little little kid I don't care if I don't get what I want I know that , wouldn't you hate your mother if she calls you stupid ! And No I am a daddy's girl also !!! And I get it , a part of me really wants him then the other part says exactly what y'all are saying , HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND GET OVER HIM , Their is a other guy trying to get my attention why don't you pay him any attention to him instead of liking a guy who already has a girlfriend

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Why have a boyfriend? One of the other parts of maturity is finding out that boyfriends aren't as important as good friends especially the younger you are.

You're right. You aren't a little little kid anymore. But you aren't a teen or adult either. I, also, don't think you really 'hate' your mother. I think you are angry and that both of you need some time together.

Let's look at what you are doing to show your parents you are growing up into a mature young woman. How are your grades? Do you have any interests or hobbies other than finding a boyfriend or skating? Do you take care of your things and help around the house without being told or forced to do so?

Have you tried doing things with your mother like making dinner or doing the laundry? When was the last time you went up and hugged her for no reason?