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  • Sep 4, 2012, 07:19 PM
    ironkids17
    This girl told me she loved me but is with another guy.
    So this girl I know has a boyfriend and when he was deployed we started talking and what not and basically were like boyfriend and girlfriend. She told me she loved me and was in love with me but when he came home she would have to see where things went with him. She would tell me all this stuff like I am perfect and that she has never been in love with someone as much as she is in love with me. She would get extremely jealous when she thought I was looking at other girls and she wouldn't want me even texting other girls back, stuff like that. She was extremely controlling. She would always call me and ask me what I was doing and always want to hang out. She said she was going to spend the nights at her parents house still so she could see me and not stay with his family when he came back. Well he came back and she has been over there every single night, and I am not stupid I know there having sex. She has lied to me many times, and its hard because I loved her a lot and I thought she loved me a lot, we spent every moment together for a year... my Question is why is she still constantly texting me every morning and night that she needs me in her life? She tells me things like she is in love with me and that she is so confused and needs to figure everything out which is weird because if she really did love me why figure things out and be with someone else? Also my main quistion is I have been ignoring her texts for over 10 days now and she keeps texting me like 10 times a day saying she loves and misses me and begging me to talk to her, should I add her boyfriend on Facebook so that I could message him and tell HIM to tell her to stop texting me because she is bothering me? I think maybe if I get him involved she might get angry and stop? Or just be angry? I was so good to this girl but she ed everything up. Should I tell him to tell her to leave me alone? Is that a good or bad move? I kind of want him to know how much of a liar she has been.
  • Sep 5, 2012, 03:46 AM
    C0bra_M3nace
    You're doing the right thing by ignoring her, however, their relationship is not your business. Eventually she will realize that you are not answering and give up. It can take some time though, all depends on her.

    I don't know if you realize though what she is and what she is doing. She's the kind of girl who needs/craves attention and affection. When her boyfriend isn't around, she seeks it elsewhere, when he's back she runs to him. The only reason she's texting you all these things is because she wants to keep you around in case he deploys again. She basically wants her cake and eat it too so don't stick around and be cake.

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