Does that mean they are not attracted to you or even have any emotions towards you? You don't turn them on?? Help!

My husband started taking this and I'm not sure exactly what all this means... we were fine and now Viagra?? Is he not attracted to me or what am I doing wrong??

Have you talked with him about this?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Have you talked with him about this?

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I just found out... I don't know even how to start to feel.

Viagra isn't a love potion... it just helps the flagpole stand up.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

Viagra isn't a love potion....it just helps the flagpole stand up.

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But do they have any emotions with it? I am blindsided by this.

Has he had sexual problems with you?

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Has he had sexual problems with you?

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I'm not even sure how long he's been using it, I found out at supper tonight because I was asking about the difference in the amount of sex we have been having lately. I just mentioned it and he flew off and told me " I needed to go find someone that can do it in the drop of a hat" . I just started crying.

How old are the two of you?

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But do they have any emotions with it? I am blindsided by this.

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Its clear English isn't your first language.

No Viagra doesn't make him feel any different, so no it doesn't make him care more. (in your words, no it doesn't give him any more emotions than he had without it)

It only helps his with his problem of getting an erection and keeping it.

They are not related

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How old are the two of you?

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36 and 42

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Originally Posted by smoothy

Its clear English isn't your first language.

No Viagra doesn't make him feel any different, so no it doesn't make him care more. (in your words, no it doesn't give him any more emotions than he had without it)

It only helps his with his problem of getting an erection and keeping it.

They are not related

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I'm actually English, I'm just beside myself in this and I thought I could ask questions without someone being RUDE about it. Thanks for adding to it!

Your husband is 42? Midlife crisis time?

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I'm actually English, I'm just beside myself in this and I thought I could ask questions without someone being RUDE about it. Thanks for adding to it!

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Who was being rude and in WHAT post? I'm pretty familiar with British, Australian, North American and Caribbean English dialects.. (not to mention three other languages) .and none of them would have used the choice of words you made. So it's a very valid observation to make.

Calm down, you two. Let's get to the root of what might be going on here. I value smoothy for his male opinion and input. And I appreciate the challenge of the question asked.

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Your husband is 42? Midlife crisis time?

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We have been fine though. This is killing me, the unknown. I'm going to have to sit down and talk with him I guess.

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We have been fine though. This is killing me, the unknown. I'm going to have to sit down and talk with him I guess.

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Okay, but let's plan out what you will say.

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Okay, but let's plan out what you will say.

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I need to, he has always been effectionate and attracted to me and vise-versa. All of a sudden though, this?

Let's think this through. He's 42. He's getting old. He may be feeling unsure about his future as an aging male. At 42, I had raised my kids who didn't need me as much any more, my husband was busy with work, and I worked too but it wasn't enough. Who was I? Where was I going? Had I proven myself enough yet? Had I been the best I could be?

I decided to go to counseling grad school while keeping my library job. Maybe your husband has some of the same worries and concerns and is fending off what he thinks will happen as he ages, a slowing down of his libido and ability to enjoy sex.

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Let's think this through. He's 42. He's getting old. He may be feeling unsure about his future as an aging male. At 42, I had raised my kids who didn't need me as much any more, my husband was busy with work, and I worked too but it wasn't enough. Who was I? Where was I going? Had I proven myself enough yet? Had I been the best I could be?

I decided to go to counseling grad school while keeping my library job. Maybe your husband has some of the same worries and concerns and is fending off what he thinks will happen as he ages, a slowing down of his libido and ability to enjoy sex.

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Maybe it's a phase he's going through or maybe not. We both have great jobs, are financial stable and pretty much debt free other than this new med brought into the house. We spend most of our time together as we always did and he never mentioned anything. After all it is his body so he would know if something was changing before I would and his family MD wrote the script so I just need to trust his doings at this point. I just don't want to be weird about it and there's a good chance that I will be.